The Language of anger

[Morning Star]

O another side of expectations is acceptance of the present. Non acceptance leads to anger.

Sometimes you have to endure failures, dissappointments or even hurt not because you are worthy of it or something, but because it is your turn, that humility would take us far, as it would save us from unnecessary anger also would help us sail thru perilous times with greater elan.
It is like when you trip over a stone, at times the best you can do is to get up brush your clothes and walk again. Beating the stone doesn't help in the long run, and afetrall we cant control our cicrcumstances, just our response to them, and once we learn to accept whatever comes to us with our power of acceptance we can thru any difficult situation, because solution is always at hand if we just learn to relax.

 

[Morning Star]

And yes, failure and hurts keep us humble as well as guide us towards greater empowerment.

 

[endlessjourney]

Ewww! Anger, what a topic! When I read this I get pissed about a friend of mine who got under my skin recently. To not confront that individual as soon as possible was my mistake. Now it has boiled up and I want to get violent with him. I cant stand that feeling. I won't get violent with him because that is not what I'm about but I will tell him to knock that shit off.
Morning Star, dealing with the anger assertively is one of the most empowering experiences out there. You feel as if you regain control and dignity. It sounds as if you have grasped that. The difficult part is making a habit of it. We tend to think that after we deal with an angering situation correctly, we don't think about the next thing that will piss us off. Do you ever have that dream about working your way to the top of something like a boxing championship for example? After you when that championship, you feel on top of the world. However, down the road there will be new challengers coming your way. There will always be people that piss you off. Each time you'll have to do something a bit different to come out on top. It's very hard for me to keep practicing my assertiveness over and over again but its working and I'm sure its working for you. Ahh, I'm gonna go give my buddy some shit! I gotta get it off my chest! (Assertively of course!) Good luck my friend!

 

[Morning Star]

Yes endless Assertive is the world.
I guess we have learn to get our power back , just as we lost it while groiwng up- slowly.

But more than that it is imperative to change what I believe about my self, as in that if I continue to believe that 'I am powerless and weak', and keep looking for its proofs, my life situation would continue to provide me with ample proofs for my inner truth, and I create that reality for my self.

I remeber the quote by Carline Myss: you are the magnet, you attract what you are within.
That means if you feel weak within, you will attract situation that would make you feel weak, and then to gain your strength back you will have to fight, thus the endless fight. To stop this cycle theonly way out is to change my belief system, to learn to believe once again, as i did as a child, that I am powerful because I am a child of God.
For once I do that I am not only changing my inner reality, but by doing that I am changing my external reality.

Just thru my belief. This has become my new mantra.

So now each time I get into an anger inducing episode, I ask myself where did I create this in my life today, what did I do today that denied my own power.

That has been a big help in stopping myself from sabotaging my own power, as the world is a mere reflection of the way I treat myself.

Now each time I get into a situation when I get bullied I ask myself that where and how did I create it?

 

[Morning Star]

Power imbalances are all created within, as world is my cradle I create what I experience. If am experiencing power imabalancing situations in my life then I am creating them somewhere, and that process mostly works subconsciously. SO I have to continuously watch out for those signals I sent out into the universe, each time I say, O I am useless, or powerless I am adding that energy into my system and creating my future.

Instead if I become proactive and say all the time that I am powerful and I am worthy of love and respect, that would make that into my reality.

 

[Cement]

It is like when you trip over a stone...walk again. Beating the stone doesn't help in the long run, and after all we cant control our circumstances, just our response to them...once we learn to accept whatever comes to us...[a] solution is always at hand if we just learn to relax.

WOW. That speaks for itself, and I think I might even print it out and carry it with me. How many scars and pains do I carry from beating a stone that I tripped over?

peace,
JAmes

 

[Cement]

if I become proactive and say all the time that I am powerful and I am worthy of love and respect, that would make that into my reality.

I am powerful and I am wothy of love.
I am powerful and I am worthy of love
I am powerful and I am worthy of love.

It is so difficult to type those words, but it is so important to do it.

Thanks, Morningstar.

PEace,
JAmes