Thanks for being here

[Phillip1978]

Hi I needed a few days before reaching out and introducing myself. For 25 years I hid my abuse and became very good at hiding it. I was able to put the memories and pain in the back of my head for a long time. Until about 6 months ago when the thoughts came back and wouldn't go away anymore. After about 6 months on July 20th I told my wife about the abuse and rape. She had no idea and is going through a understandably hard time now too. Anyway I never thought anyone had been in my situation until I started looking for help and reading and found stories that were so familiar. I am very grateful for all of your bravery and having this support outlet.

 

[betrayed boy]

hi phillip, welcome to M/S i think u can find some help here theres alot of guys with alot of stories to tell. i had decades b-4 stuff came back to me its fairly common for guys like us it just pops up when it will, hope u will interact with the guys on here im sure u can find support and help here. BB

 

[Tom E.]

Welcome Phillip1978

 

[Donald177]

Hello Phillip,

Welcome to our group. I am glad you are here but saddened for the reason that brings you here. You will find that the men here are very supportive and understanding. They will give much encouragement and support. It takes a lot of courage to tell our spouses the darkest secret we have locked away for many, many years. I am sorry that your wife is struggling with your situation. I hope that you both can find some common ground and start the healing process together. I told my wife back in December all of the junk that floods my mind as I kept my distance throughout our 19 year marriage. It has opened up another door for much healing to take place. I hope the same for you. Please feel free to message me anytime you need to vent, ask a question, or just chat. I am here. Continue to read posts, share as you feel comfortable, visit the chat area when you feel comfortable, and on Sunday and Wednesday nights at 9pm there is the Healing Circle session. Just go to the chat area and there will be instructions on what to do. Be good to yourself. Have a blessed day. Many blessings!

Donald

 

[WG]

Welcome Phillip78 - and at the same time sorry you have to be here. Take your time. Now that this all is surfacing, have you considered entering therapy? Unsure where you are in your life just now, but it's a thought. Didn't do anything with any of my abuse for just about 50 years (I'm 63). No one knew, my wife suspected something was up, but not that. Certainly not that. After 35 years, she's still beside me. I have a compassionate therapist who always tells me the truth. Guides me, encourages me and gives me hope. His assistance has been indispensable - I could never do this alone - tried that and it didn't work so well (witness the 50 years of hiding).

 

[Tellurye]

Hey, Phillip! Welcome, and so jacked to have met you. I , too, recently told my wife. I literally told her this past weekend! Sucks to have a conversation, but talking about it has been the best thing for our marriage.

Im the resident weird one (yes, every forum has them) goofy, silly, and acting out! So make sure you head over to the Humor section and read my jokes lol.

Seriously, reach out to any of us with questions or help. We are here for each other.

"I am very grateful for all of your bravery "

We are grateful for your bravery as well.

 

[Phillip1978]

Thanks Donald!

 

[Phillip1978]

Thank you for the kind words

 

[Phillip1978]

Good to meet you too

 

[Bluedogone]

Hi Phillip1978 - welcome,

I'm glad you are here, but as they say, sorry it's so necessary. It is indeed courageous to face this difficult past, and also to tell your wife. It's understandable that she's going through an equally hard time too.

I hope you feel a lot of support and encouragement from those of us who are sharing this journey of healing.

Best wishes. - Blue

 

[woodenshoes]

Hi phillip1978

I am sorry you are experiencing trauma from the past. Your body is telling you it is time to deal with it. Although it may be difficult it will help give you some peace we are in it together. I truly feel for you and hope you feel better after sharing. We are hear to help you.

Woodenshoes