thanks and take care
thanks and take care
- Thread starterTrevor
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sometimes it is time to step back. everyone needs to take a step back. remember, a lot of anger and frustration come with this stuff.
Trevor, you are asking the right questions, but the answers are in you, and in those that hurt you. for some, you may never find out why. who knows why they chose to hate you? i'm willing to bet they can't even give you a reason, or more likely they dont see it that way at all. overall, is that really important?
mostly, i see a lot of anger in you, along with confusiong and frustration. those are things to take to the therapist and figure them out. it is okay to be an ass, just aim it at the right people and at the right time.
i really hope and pray you continue talking and posting. this, along with therapy is where you will find your way thru all the mess. if you must leave, remember this place. i can think of no better place to begin to heal.
Trevor, you are asking the right questions, but the answers are in you, and in those that hurt you. for some, you may never find out why. who knows why they chose to hate you? i'm willing to bet they can't even give you a reason, or more likely they dont see it that way at all. overall, is that really important?
mostly, i see a lot of anger in you, along with confusiong and frustration. those are things to take to the therapist and figure them out. it is okay to be an ass, just aim it at the right people and at the right time.
i really hope and pray you continue talking and posting. this, along with therapy is where you will find your way thru all the mess. if you must leave, remember this place. i can think of no better place to begin to heal.
thanks i really liked this
place. i wanted to
stay. it was the first time
i finaly felt kind of ok about
being angry and talking and saying shit
but i just knew it wasnt
true i knew sooner or later
somebody would get pissed
at me cuz thats what people
fucking do they get pissed
at me but its cool im just
used to it and it dont matter
anymore
thanks phoster ur a good
guy.
place. i wanted to
stay. it was the first time
i finaly felt kind of ok about
being angry and talking and saying shit
but i just knew it wasnt
true i knew sooner or later
somebody would get pissed
at me cuz thats what people
fucking do they get pissed
at me but its cool im just
used to it and it dont matter
anymore
thanks phoster ur a good
guy.
Hauser
Registrant
Hi Trev,..........ummmmm.......nobody here is mad at you dude, you're talking and seeking answers, that's what this place is for. You're not the only one that vents here.
I have noticed that you can display a crass sense of humor sometimes, but there aint nothin wrong with that. Lighten up ok? You're welcome here now more than ever.
Oh hey, how did that visit to your T with your step-sister go? She seems cool.
I have noticed that you can display a crass sense of humor sometimes, but there aint nothin wrong with that. Lighten up ok? You're welcome here now more than ever.
Oh hey, how did that visit to your T with your step-sister go? She seems cool.
you know i left here for a long time, and one cause was the constant infighting that seems to come up every few months. i have watched this place turn into a complete mess at times. what i have decided is that i refuse to let those that dissagree with me rob me of the healing this place offers. people are going to dissagree. that is a given. many of us are still in part trapped in childhood, and can all be childish at times, but i believe at the heart we are all better than that. there is a time to just let it roll off and keep going. one thing about these boards, or any boards is people are going to dissagree and get angry at you, and if you allow it to drive you off, you will never stay on a site long. at some point you have to be determined and steadfast, and allow them thier opinions and feelings.
Trevor, we all know and feel that anger you are going through, and we all support your attempts to make sense of everything. But sometimes you just need to chill. The guys are trying very hard to help you, and when you say things like "Well that wasn't the answer I wanted" you run the risk of alienating them.
My advise is to stick around here a bit, and read some of the forums. In a lot of cases the answers you are looking for are in those old threads. And when you do post, please understand that there are a lot of guys here who feel the way you do, and also some guys who have been through it all. I guess what I am saying is, you are being shown a lot of respect. Please try to return that respect, because the answers to your recovery are in this place, and the last thing you (and we) want is for you to leave.
Peace.
Nobby
My advise is to stick around here a bit, and read some of the forums. In a lot of cases the answers you are looking for are in those old threads. And when you do post, please understand that there are a lot of guys here who feel the way you do, and also some guys who have been through it all. I guess what I am saying is, you are being shown a lot of respect. Please try to return that respect, because the answers to your recovery are in this place, and the last thing you (and we) want is for you to leave.
Peace.
Nobby
Trevor, don't let what others think of you or say to you ruin your life. The Buddha once said that if someone offered you a poisoned apple and you didn't take it then whose apple would it be? If someone thinks you are a selfish person does it make it so? We're so use to instinctively reacting to certain situations that it is hard to see how much conditioning we really have. These habits are hard to break and they take a lot of work and time. Ultimately it is up to you to decide what is best for you right now. If you do leave then take care and know that you are always welcome back.
Jesse
Jesse
