Thank you, and request for advice or assistance
I am here with a person translator tonight, so perhaps things will make much more sense. I thank everyone who has given to me advice and response to my questions. You all are very kind to share your wisdom with me.
And so, I come to here tonight to make request for other advice of something.
There is person that a friend and I both placed police statements on several months ago, of abuses he put on us both in the past. He is in jail right now, he is waiting for trial in September, but he is being on trial for other charges. Because these charges were different, and considered more serious than the sexual abuse ones, my friend and I, we both were told that we would most likely not be needed to go in court. Also, they have the physical proof on this man of one of the other charges that I am aware of.
Several days ago, we are called, to say that they would actually like one of us to speak in court of what this man did to us. That both of us, they would like available, but that they would like at least one of us to plan to speak, to be prepared for it. Because now they believe, if they bring into this case also the sexual abuse, they can get a harsher sentence placed on this man, although Russia does not put criminals to death at this time. But at times,they still will issue that sentence to a criminal, and should we begin to do that as a nation again, the sentence is on the person. That is the issue with this.
First they asked my friend if he would speak in the court, because he placed the first charge on this man, and also the abuse was longer lasting to him than to me, which it is just the 'one time' thing to me. But my friend, it would be so difficult for him, for his family, because they do not know all details of his abuse, and also for it being public, he is not someone who wants that. Since I do not have the same issues with my family knowing of it, I say I will do it instead.
I do not blame my friend, and I am certainly not stronger than him or anyone else. I just felt it would be easier for me, in my situation, than his. But since I say I will do that, I am terrified of it. I have never spoken all the details but once, of what happen from this man, and that was one night I was quite drunk and telling this to my friend. I cannot imagine it, how it will be to have to speak it in court, in front of people, in front of 'him', and to maintain without going crazy.
We ask if it is possible to do this by written statement or video. We are told no, the first one, they already have written statements by both of us. And the solicitor, he states that he do not feel that it would be allowed in court, the information, if the person representing that man is not allowed to question me, or whoever it is who speaks. And they wish to have that stronger sentence.
I do not regret that I say yes I will do it. I will do it. But I wish, is anyone here who has done this, and can you tell me of how to do it safely. I do not wish to be emotional. I do not want this monster to see my emotion about what he did to me, or my friend, or how ever many other boys he did this to. How do I speak this without emotion? Or is that even best thing? Please, if anyone can advice? This do not happen until September, but it is what I think of last two days.
I do not wish to give more detail right now because my translator tonight, he is here just to assist my words, he is not survivor,and he do not know the details. I feel I am not prepared to share them with any not-survivors yet.
Thank you.
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And so, I come to here tonight to make request for other advice of something.
There is person that a friend and I both placed police statements on several months ago, of abuses he put on us both in the past. He is in jail right now, he is waiting for trial in September, but he is being on trial for other charges. Because these charges were different, and considered more serious than the sexual abuse ones, my friend and I, we both were told that we would most likely not be needed to go in court. Also, they have the physical proof on this man of one of the other charges that I am aware of.
Several days ago, we are called, to say that they would actually like one of us to speak in court of what this man did to us. That both of us, they would like available, but that they would like at least one of us to plan to speak, to be prepared for it. Because now they believe, if they bring into this case also the sexual abuse, they can get a harsher sentence placed on this man, although Russia does not put criminals to death at this time. But at times,they still will issue that sentence to a criminal, and should we begin to do that as a nation again, the sentence is on the person. That is the issue with this.
First they asked my friend if he would speak in the court, because he placed the first charge on this man, and also the abuse was longer lasting to him than to me, which it is just the 'one time' thing to me. But my friend, it would be so difficult for him, for his family, because they do not know all details of his abuse, and also for it being public, he is not someone who wants that. Since I do not have the same issues with my family knowing of it, I say I will do it instead.
I do not blame my friend, and I am certainly not stronger than him or anyone else. I just felt it would be easier for me, in my situation, than his. But since I say I will do that, I am terrified of it. I have never spoken all the details but once, of what happen from this man, and that was one night I was quite drunk and telling this to my friend. I cannot imagine it, how it will be to have to speak it in court, in front of people, in front of 'him', and to maintain without going crazy.
We ask if it is possible to do this by written statement or video. We are told no, the first one, they already have written statements by both of us. And the solicitor, he states that he do not feel that it would be allowed in court, the information, if the person representing that man is not allowed to question me, or whoever it is who speaks. And they wish to have that stronger sentence.
I do not regret that I say yes I will do it. I will do it. But I wish, is anyone here who has done this, and can you tell me of how to do it safely. I do not wish to be emotional. I do not want this monster to see my emotion about what he did to me, or my friend, or how ever many other boys he did this to. How do I speak this without emotion? Or is that even best thing? Please, if anyone can advice? This do not happen until September, but it is what I think of last two days.
I do not wish to give more detail right now because my translator tonight, he is here just to assist my words, he is not survivor,and he do not know the details. I feel I am not prepared to share them with any not-survivors yet.
Thank you.
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