telling people who dont understand it all

[lipsticklullabies]

my bestfriend knows what happened to me.
kind of
most of it
except, she thinks who did it was the person i THOUGHT did it,
now that im sorting through all this, i dont really think it was that person.
i want to tell her that it wasn't, but i dont know how to tell her, hey i changed my mind..
because she doesn't understand all of these confused feelings.
i dont want her to think that i made it up and now all of a sudden im going back on it or something
any body been in this situtation kno whow i can explain this to her,
i know she'll be understanding because she's aaamzing and everything, i just want to explain it right,
thankss again!//josh

&&&&& i wanna say that this site is really really great and you guys are really really great. i honestly would be so gone if it weren't for this. lost in my own confusions and pain or, gone, gone. idk but im so grateful for you guys.

 

[Grunty1967b]

As you have said, the confusion is to be expected. This is pretty horrific stuff us kids had to go through and now try and recover and survive from.

You may actually find that perhaps more than one person abused you. AS you work through recovery many additional issues arise that you never know were there.

I dont mean to upset you or poor more weight on your pain but the reason I say this is that if you now update your girlfriend on who you now know it was, you may only need further updates [perhaps] on additional perps [if there were any].

I think its an incidental issue. She knows you were abused, is supporting you well. Thats the important thing.

This issue of your mistake on who the perp was will no doubt not be the last additional issue you face and [may want] to disclose and share with her.

Just my thoughts.