Telling others the truth
ForeverFighting
Registrant
I have always hated listening to people who seems to think my bioparents are the most amazing people on earth.
"I just love your mom."
"I admire your mom so much for taking care of your dad."
"How are your mom and dad doing? We sure miss them?"
"Did it snow at your parents’ house?"
"Have you talked to your mom and dad?"
I’m glad you do. Yeah, she’s just as crazy as my dad. I have no idea. I haven’t talked to them. No idea. Nope.
For some reason, therapy and talking to you guys here has made it easier to just be real in front of people. I have changed in the last 6 months. I told a friend tonight, "I can’t go up to my parents’ house anymore. Just the smell of the old wood in the house is too much right now." I told another guy tonight, "The doctors upped my medicine and it’s really helping, but it’s hard to think sometimes while I’m adjusting to the increase." I’ve told friends I have complex PTSD. When the subject of sexual abuse came up during a meeting, I said, "There are a lot of us who have gone through that." One lady said, "I just love your dad." I said, "The dad I grew up with was abducted by aliens and replaced by the old man you know now. My dad was not nice." She said the same is true of her mother. I made a deal with her--she will love my dad, and I will love her mother. She said she liked that idea.
I’m finding that the world doesn’t end if others know how I really feel. One friend said to several other people, "Those of us who do not understand need to read about it so that we can."
This is different for me. I always thought that if I said how I really felt about my parents or my past, people would think I was crazy or something. Now I’m finding that most care more about me. And for those that don’t, I really don’t care. The truth is the truth. My mother can fabricate whatever alternate reality she wants people to believe, but I’m not playing anymore.
Michael
"I just love your mom."
"I admire your mom so much for taking care of your dad."
"How are your mom and dad doing? We sure miss them?"
"Did it snow at your parents’ house?"
"Have you talked to your mom and dad?"
I’m glad you do. Yeah, she’s just as crazy as my dad. I have no idea. I haven’t talked to them. No idea. Nope.
For some reason, therapy and talking to you guys here has made it easier to just be real in front of people. I have changed in the last 6 months. I told a friend tonight, "I can’t go up to my parents’ house anymore. Just the smell of the old wood in the house is too much right now." I told another guy tonight, "The doctors upped my medicine and it’s really helping, but it’s hard to think sometimes while I’m adjusting to the increase." I’ve told friends I have complex PTSD. When the subject of sexual abuse came up during a meeting, I said, "There are a lot of us who have gone through that." One lady said, "I just love your dad." I said, "The dad I grew up with was abducted by aliens and replaced by the old man you know now. My dad was not nice." She said the same is true of her mother. I made a deal with her--she will love my dad, and I will love her mother. She said she liked that idea.
I’m finding that the world doesn’t end if others know how I really feel. One friend said to several other people, "Those of us who do not understand need to read about it so that we can."
This is different for me. I always thought that if I said how I really felt about my parents or my past, people would think I was crazy or something. Now I’m finding that most care more about me. And for those that don’t, I really don’t care. The truth is the truth. My mother can fabricate whatever alternate reality she wants people to believe, but I’m not playing anymore.
Michael
