T & Gays

I almost have to laugh about this. My T told me I could tell her anything. She has heard it all. But she gets tounge tied when it comes to my being gay. She refers to it as "homosexual" (when she can finally spit it out .

And I don't know where this one came from "I guess it's ok (here she almost choked) now that homosexuals can get, ah, ah, married"

At least in my current phase, that she is uncomfortable with it isn't a real problem. But it sure is comical!

Marc

 

[Ken Singer LCSW]

Though I almost never lean towards a client educating a therapist, it sounds like she could use some experience and knowledge about homosexuality (there, I said it ).

Rather than spend you session time educating her, you might suggest she do some reading or attending training in this area to bring her up to speed since orientation (while not an issue at this point) will probably be coming up as you continue your healing. There is a book written in the last year or so that is by a gay therapist to help straight therapists understand their gay clients better. I can't recall the title or the author but I think it was reviewed in the MS newsletter in the past year.

If you're really curious about the book, contact Murray Schane, the newsletter editor. He may know.

Ken

 

[David1010]

I agree with Ken, Marc. At this point that may not be an issue, but it may become one down the road. Therapy is supposed to be a place where you feel comfortable, all you, all the time, so you can express your feelings and deal with your issues.

I'm not sure if it's a good idea for you to express your observation about her reaction when you deal with homsexuality. Maybe if you point out what you perceive you would know for sure. She may have to confront whatever disconfort she may feel about the subject.

Remember, you are the paying consumer, and you pay money to deal with YOUR issues, not hers (if she has one). You are a consumer, and a T session should be your space where you bring everything you need to and fee safe. That's what T is for. For you to have a comfortable, safe space.