Surviving alone, how did I do it?

[Mecano]

Hi all, I just have a quick question, please let me know your thoughts.

Has anyone survived SA as a child, repressed the memory until adolecense and pretty much lived an okay life with some conflicts developing close relationships...and had not had any help from therapy or any other professional group?

This is my situation, and this is the first time I talk about it since I joined the chat room. I thought it was a great source of information and bouncing off ideas back and forth with others like me. I was just wondering how many other guys are out there with similar experiences.

Mecano


PS. After reading some of the postings from other guys, I sometimes feel lucky that I am not as deeply affected by it as other guys. However, I don't know how I managed it alone with no help and never talking about it until today in the chats, perhaps it was a defense mechanism to simply ignore it.

 

[JAAY]

Hello,

It is noce to meet you. Yes, that is what happened to me but I did not remember the SA until I was 33. I really have noticed a big change in myself since I started posting here. I find that for the most part I have good days.

Close relationships have been effected. I have not been able to get emotionally and sexually close with woman and mistrust most men.

I hope this helps!! Good luck!

 

[Dale English]

Hi Mecano,

...and welcome!! We human beings are amazing in our capacity to manage through some pretty terrible stuff. With SA, a lot depends on the child's age and the length and frequency of the abuse, as well as whether the child had somebody in his life who provided some of what he needed.

If you managed to come through this without the worst of effects consider your self lucky. I know you'll find great support here...and who ever gets too much of that?!?!

Taz