Stupid Joke

Stupid Joke
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collegecapricorn

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It has been about 6 months since I came here, since I started this whole recovery thing and I dont want to do it anymore. Im tired of struggling, tired of thinking, just tired. I know there is really no alternative but reallyI was happy before when I didnt remember, or at least happier. I feel weekuseless and helpless. I hate being both. Im mad at myself for not being better at all this, for handling shit better. Seriously, Im sitting here, at my office freaking out. After listening to a horrible priest abuse joke I want to run away, get in my car and just leave. Yeahits really fucking funny that I wake up in the middle of the night, unable to breathe like someones holding my nose while filling my mouth. Its such a laugh that a priest made me do those things. Maybe Im just weaker than I thoughtit was just a joke. Im patheticsitting here pretending to sneeze so people walking around me wont think my eyes are tearing up. I need to go because Im starting to feel like hes here, and I need to stop being dumb, stop shaking and go to my meeting. Thanks for reading.
 
There is NOTHING wrong with your reaction or you. People think this s**t is funny until it involves them. Or they think it's funny if it involves males. Honestly, I've NEVER heard someone crack a "standard" rape "joke" that didn't get THEIR @$$ shot down, yet when it involves males or priests, suddenly it's frigging funny.

Society doesn't get it unless they're involved as individuals. Never have. Never will. The ONLY time they'll get it is if someone holds their feet to the fire.

If you think you can, the next time some moron says ANYHTING you find offensive (it doesn't have to involve SA - I've said it about cancer, AIDS, etc.), say to the, "excuse me, but I find that kind of "humor (try NOT to include verbal quotes in your tone :D )" degrading and offensive." Nothing else. You'd be AMAZED at how quickly people tend to shut up or apologize when they realize they've crossed a line.

I understand how you feel completely.

Peace, love, and ((((((((((((hug))))))))))))

Scot
 
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PM me if you need. Sorry I didn't listen well last night. I hate that you are hurting, bud, but don't give up.
 
Subject matter of jokes are a lot of times no jokes. Until public awareness and outrage is raised. This is why you don't here many "rape of women" jokes and the number of N-word jokes is greatly deminishing like they should have years ago.

You and the rest of us can help raise awareness of these insensitive jokes about male sexual abuse by writing and complaining about Jon Stewart's recent joke on The Daily Show and Hannity and Combs. The information is in Off Topic in Roland's Daily Show thread.
https://malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=38;t=000515
 
cc,

man, I cant count the number of times thats happened to me, when someone makes a joke like that, or makes a comment about abuse, or molestation, or whatever... it enrages me, and I just want to do something drastic while I am trying to control my emotions, and hold back the tears. I'm really sorry you had to go through this, as I know its really f-ing hard to deal with, especially when you are at work. I know how it feels to want to berate the person for saying what they did, and tell them how offended you are, and why it is wrong to joke like that, but at the same time, you cant, ecause you would expose yourself, and everyone would know what happened, adn what you are going through, and they would never understand, adn a whole other myriad of thoughts that run through your head all at once.... gotta take a deep breath, and collect yourself (easier said than done) and tell yourself that it is ignorance, ignorance thrives everywhere we go, and it really sucks big time... BIll is right that this shit will not subside until it is posted everywhere for all to see that it is infact a horrible thing rather than a joke... and maybe then (despite the triggers from hearing about it everywhere) just maybe then shit liek this will subside.

sorry again that you had to go through this crap man, its really uncalled for, but you are among friends here, you know that, and when this shit gets to be at its toghest, you know theres at least someone to help carry the load here, i'm willing any time....

take care,
cpt.
 
It is a question of apathy and disconnect. We cannot feels others pain, unless we connect with them, or step into their shoes.

I think that is where my abuse has empowered me, by engendering empathy in me.

As I am beginning to feel my own pain and respond to it, I am also beginning to respond to others.

Whenever I am in deep pain, I know that if I dont come for my own rescue first, no else never will.

If I dont say it, no will ever know.

No one will ever stop abusing me, verbally, physically, emotionally, sexually, if I dont say: THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE TO ME!

True recovery from abuse is empowerment.

PS: We are a bunch of brave souls, who have taken on these experiences to learn the lessons in empathy. Because with empathy, you can never abuse power.
 
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