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Cthulhu
Sometimes we just get stuck. I have learned, at least for me, there was something I was telling, I was burying. In time it was released and the sense of being stuck went away. Remember you are not alone, we are here and you are working toward regaining your life. During this journey you probably have met people and do not realize they were there to help you. They are probably there and need to know you are there--if that makes any sense to you.
Healing for me, was complex and a tough journey. I had support from wonderful people and detractors from family. I let the latter control and define me. I was wrong, once I opened up to those that supported, comforted and loved I was able to admit and become unstuck from my past. The child within me was stuck as a child. A child who desperately needed me, and I was not there, I was in denial. We finally connected and I am not stuck. Maybe a part of you is stuck and this part is holding all of you in a state of suspension.
Keep working on the healing, you will find the answer.
Kevin
Sometimes we just get stuck. I have learned, at least for me, there was something I was telling, I was burying. In time it was released and the sense of being stuck went away. Remember you are not alone, we are here and you are working toward regaining your life. During this journey you probably have met people and do not realize they were there to help you. They are probably there and need to know you are there--if that makes any sense to you.
Healing for me, was complex and a tough journey. I had support from wonderful people and detractors from family. I let the latter control and define me. I was wrong, once I opened up to those that supported, comforted and loved I was able to admit and become unstuck from my past. The child within me was stuck as a child. A child who desperately needed me, and I was not there, I was in denial. We finally connected and I am not stuck. Maybe a part of you is stuck and this part is holding all of you in a state of suspension.
Keep working on the healing, you will find the answer.
Kevin
It was the same for me, too. The child within wasn't nurtured or comforted and I certainly wasn't doing my part as 'him as an adult' to be the caregiver, friend,nurturing one, he so desperately required. I have, with my therapist, learned to do that. It's taken a while of returning to him time and again, before I felt he was integrating into who I am now as a man. He needed to be cared for in ways he - I - never received. It was a huge stuck point for me. Not so much any longer. I don't feel as stuck now in a number of places. Sometimes it takes repeated visits to places we were afraid to venture into because we felt alone or abandoned to our own devices which were, at best, few and far between. We didn't know what to do so we oftentimes did nothing and that caused us to get stuck again. I would say talking to safe people will be one of the keys to healing. I know it sounds trite, but continue to talk. You might feel as if you've "talked it out" and possibly so. However, I would venture to say there's more. Sometimes journaling, writing, helps us to move out of "stuckness" too. It does with me. I've written a lot since beginning this journey 2 years ago. I would also say - never give up. Never. You owe it to that little boy. He's quite a terrific little guy once you get to know him better !
