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RICK57

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I've just had an excellent day out (alcohol & humour involved)- I've stated to my best friend how strong I feel now.

When I got home I decided that it was an excellent time to prove to myself exactly how strong I am. It was dark, raining heavily and not a very good time to wander off into the countryside, but I did.

Anyone that has read my ealier postings may be aware of the sites of my abuse & how close they are to where I live now.

Well I walked along there in the dark with the rain bouncing off me....I got to the bridge at the railway station & was OK. I walked towards the next bridge near the new railway museum & just couldn't go any further... I knew that nothing could hurt me along there any more, but I still turned back.

There are cameras at the new museum & I think I must have been spotted by them (strange I made a posting previously stating how these cameras may protect children in the future).

When I got back to the Old Museum, a Police Car pulled up - they asked me something like??? had I had a good night / was I ok....it's less than half an hour ago, but this is massive.

I just pulled a face & they asked me what was wrong, so I asked what would happen if someone claimed that they had been abused over 30 years ago - they said they would treat it very seriously. To cut a long story short - they are coming to see me sometime Sunday.

I'm OK now - if this develops into something bigger then I hope I have the strength that I think I have now.

I wanted to confront him in my own time, but maybe this is what was meant to happen.

Others may have complained, but not had the strength to follow it through.

I know you're with me & thanks for that..Rik
 
Rik,

It sounds like the time is right. Tell them what happened, but make sure you are "safe" when talking to them. Grounded.

I don't know what the penalties are in the U.K. for this kind of thing, but I hope he pays with a lot of hard and miserable time.

I am praying for you. I know how scary this can be. But you are not alone.

Please let us know how it goes!

Peace, brother

Marc
 
Rik,

you told the cops, hey I bet they were stunned, but I see you were so strong to say it. I really do hope you can get him, and maybe it was the way it was meant to be.

If others come forward, so much the better, I wish you strength and courage, and really hope you can get him nailed,

keep us posted,

ste
 
Thanks everyone.

The police have just been - a really good community officer that I spoke to last night. He thought I might have panicked & given a false address - I obviously didn't.

What's important is that He believed every word I said. He has explained what the process will be if I want to take it further - I do. It will be difficult, I know that. I know that I have the inner strength to handle it - he's not getting away with it any longer.

The police are going to check if there is anything else about him on record - if not, it's all down to me. It may be my word against his, he may get off - at least his card will be marked.

Best wishes .... Rik
 
Thanks everyone.

The police have just been - a really good community officer that I spoke to last night. He thought I might have panicked & given a false address - I obviously didn't.

What's important is that He believed every word I said. He has explained what the process will be if I want to take it further - I do. It will be difficult, I know that. I know that I have the inner strength to handle it - he's not getting away with it any longer.

The police are going to check if there is anything else about him on record - if not, it's all down to me. It may be my word against his, he may get off - at least his card will be marked.

Best wishes .... Rik
 
Rik,

I don't envy your task, but you have to face this b**tard in the street, you know who he is.
Chances are, he is still doing it. Give yourself the courage to stop him doing it to others, it will give you so much inner peace to do this.

I hope you have the courage to do it,

wish you well,

ste
 
The ball is well and truly rolling now - I've just been and made an extensive statement. I can't post any further details here yet as it could prejudice the end result.

I feel that I have the strength to see it through now!
 
Rick
sometimes events conspire to do the strangest things in our lives, but 'strange' or not we can often deal with these events far better than if we'd planned it.
When we plan we can often talk ourselves out of actually doing it, and we can fuel ourselves up with all the negatives and "what if's?"

It's not going to be easy for you, but these days the police should be far more sympathetic and proffesional when dealing with abuse cases, even when they are 30 years old

You sound as though you're ready for it though, good luck.

Dave
 
Thanks Dave - the bit I missed off the last post, is that I have also finally told my sister (straight after I got back from the police station) - you might remember how much of an issue that has been for me & it went well (for that type of disclosure).

I'm calm now with a strange sense of relief - it's still got to sink in yet though.

I could not have done this even 3 months ago - I thank everyone here for giving me the strength to do this.

Thanks again ...Rik
 
Rik it is amazing how far you have come. I am so very very proud of you. You offer hope and inspiration to everyone here.
 
Good for you my friend, you have great courage and I will pray for you as often as I can. I hope all goes well and I hope you get the justice that you so deserve.
 
Thanks again for all of your support - I probably won't hear anything else until Wednesday (UK time) or possibly later in the week.

Last night I was exhausted after writing a 15 page statement - I slept solid for 11 hours - no nightmares...nothing.

I know that there will be no more new victims due to him - his card is well and clearly marked now.

I told 3 of the production staff at work that were previously aware of my situation (fathers/ mothers) - they all have young sons...they were so proud of me. I was never an alcoholic, but did drink quite a lot. I didn't need a drink last night & I am not having one tonight - I want to enjoy this feeling of calmness that I am experiencing. Drinking in future will be purely for pleasure - I'm going to buy a really good bottle of wine at the weekend (Friday night) & think I will be celebrating Saturday.

Don't worry - I know that he could still get off - at least I've done what I can. I don't even feel fear about facing him in court - that's major progress.

Once again thanks to everyone here - it really is because of your support that I have gained the strength to do this.

I believe that little me is really proud that I have made this statement - I have finally spoken up for him.

Thanks again...Rik
 
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