stepbrother
stepbrother
- Thread starterTrevor
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ya i could kick his ass but
hes 2 much of a fucking
coward to evr be around me
alone he always has to have
his stupid fucking
frends with him so i nevr
get the chance
no hauser no law involvd. his dad,
my stepfucker i mean stepfathr IS
the law, hes a cop. there all
the same. im not saying shit cuz
i like my teeth rite where they
are thanks
hes 2 much of a fucking
coward to evr be around me
alone he always has to have
his stupid fucking
frends with him so i nevr
get the chance
no hauser no law involvd. his dad,
my stepfucker i mean stepfathr IS
the law, hes a cop. there all
the same. im not saying shit cuz
i like my teeth rite where they
are thanks
Stay safe, Trev. We'd like to have you around a while.
John
John
Trevor,
If I could I'd sure give you a big safe hug. Take you away from all that.
Do the best you can, Bro, and remember we care what happens to you.
Lots of love,
John
If I could I'd sure give you a big safe hug. Take you away from all that.
Do the best you can, Bro, and remember we care what happens to you.
Lots of love,
John
endlessjourney
Registrant
Trevor,
When I confronted my brother I got a reaction that I wasn't pleased with either. I wanted to fight him right there and then and I feel the only thing that stopped me was my little nephew asking me "uncle Jason, are you going to hit my daddy". I left and felt absolutely aweful. Yea, I probably could have got the upper hand on him but that wasn't important. What was important was that I healed and said what I had to say (even though that was my first confrontation with him and I didn't go about it the right way). My mistake was, that I confronted him in anger instead of staying focused. Perps are manipulative and they will try to deny, minimize, or even try to justify their actions but that can be overcome. We know the truth because we have experienced the effects first hand.
Sometimes, we will never get the reaction we want from our perps but, if we disclose how we feel, and stand up for ourselves and the fact that what was done to us WAS wrong, then we will get some gratification. It's good to let them know we want an apology even though we may never get it.
Sometimes, we have to confront many times before we're satisfied. It is important that we remain calm when we confront. The person who loses their head, loses the argument. Stay strong man.
I can relate to how you feel.
Jason
When I confronted my brother I got a reaction that I wasn't pleased with either. I wanted to fight him right there and then and I feel the only thing that stopped me was my little nephew asking me "uncle Jason, are you going to hit my daddy". I left and felt absolutely aweful. Yea, I probably could have got the upper hand on him but that wasn't important. What was important was that I healed and said what I had to say (even though that was my first confrontation with him and I didn't go about it the right way). My mistake was, that I confronted him in anger instead of staying focused. Perps are manipulative and they will try to deny, minimize, or even try to justify their actions but that can be overcome. We know the truth because we have experienced the effects first hand.
Sometimes, we will never get the reaction we want from our perps but, if we disclose how we feel, and stand up for ourselves and the fact that what was done to us WAS wrong, then we will get some gratification. It's good to let them know we want an apology even though we may never get it.
Sometimes, we have to confront many times before we're satisfied. It is important that we remain calm when we confront. The person who loses their head, loses the argument. Stay strong man.
I can relate to how you feel.
Jason
endlessjourney
Registrant
First off, you know who is in the wrong in this confrontation. It's definitely not you. He's smart and knows how to twist words around. He's older. However, you have it within you to beat him. He's used to your same old tactics you used in the past so now, its important to come back with a different approach. Maybe come back at a later date. It's also important to make sure you feel safe before confronting. If you have a bad feeling about it at the time, its good to let it go and come back at a time when you feel more comfortable.
One thing that helped me was practicing in front of a mirror or just talking to myself, planning out what I was going to say and preparing for any come back he could have. For ex: "quit being a wuss, It's not that big of a deal, you wanted to do it, you let me do it, I was young, etc." These are all cop outs my perp used and I was ready for them. I let my brother know how I felt about him and the damage he had caused.
Someone may have mentioned this author to you already, but if you get a chance, check out "The Courage To Heal" by Laura Davis. It's a big thick yellow book you can get at any bookstore. There is a section on confrontations in there that you might want to check if you get the time. It did me a lot of good. As a matter of fact, if you haven't read it, I would recommend going through the whole book. I can't even describe the good it did for me.
Good luck and be safe. You'll beat this. We are all pullin for ya!
Jason
One thing that helped me was practicing in front of a mirror or just talking to myself, planning out what I was going to say and preparing for any come back he could have. For ex: "quit being a wuss, It's not that big of a deal, you wanted to do it, you let me do it, I was young, etc." These are all cop outs my perp used and I was ready for them. I let my brother know how I felt about him and the damage he had caused.
Someone may have mentioned this author to you already, but if you get a chance, check out "The Courage To Heal" by Laura Davis. It's a big thick yellow book you can get at any bookstore. There is a section on confrontations in there that you might want to check if you get the time. It did me a lot of good. As a matter of fact, if you haven't read it, I would recommend going through the whole book. I can't even describe the good it did for me.
Good luck and be safe. You'll beat this. We are all pullin for ya!
Jason