startle response and then some..!!!!!

[thecoopstah]

I don't maybe it's just me....but here goes ....Being a survivor of this horrific affliction, are there any men out here, who are
(easily) startled ,because i'll tell you,my body cringes whenever i hear loud noises,someone yells,screams,anything that catches me off guard boy i go right on the defensive....i want to choke someone and or i go right back to my childhood to that little boy...that was so (afraid)when(he)was taken agvantage of...where was i....my body tightens right up whenever ,it happened again today...at an AA mtg a woman screamed and i wanted to "throw her out a window"...i was that terrified....i become so scared-which i've been for a long time-that i either need to get the hell out of there or jump down the persons throat.I have PTSD (post-traumatic-stress-disorder)and my "fight or flight" makes me ,based on my fear , i need to sit against the wall,i can't have people sitting behind me it's that simple.Anyway , i will end here,i needed to get this out,maybe someone will identify with me,if not,thats not important....what is ,important ,is how i'm able to get how im feeling .....out and maybe help someone else in the process.....because no matter what,the perps.......are not going to beat me....or us anymore .....god bless YOU ALL

 

TCS,

The exaggerated startle response affects a lot of us. Sudden, loud noises make me panic. Anyone touching me without permission makes me panic, more so men than women. And I nearly have a coronary if someone taps me on the shoulder from behind. I can even see something out of the corner of my eye that seems threatening and the same thing happens

At least, in my case, I think it comes from feeling always on guard. As a kid, I was so stressed out that I would literally pass out sometimes if an adult male touched me.

Marc

 

[reality2k4]

coopstah,

startled responses, baby crying, startled response, even though I know babies cry = alarm bells, hit me on the head and you get to know what startled response is! Don't do it!!

Fight or flight, I know the feeling of so much tenseness, it is not right, and you should address it with a T. Sometimes watching someone else not being in control can send you out of control as in the woman you mention.

Try to ground yourself, nobody should ever have to go through this crap, I don't know why life is so full of hurt, it can stifle you, you feel like saying, hey, how about my story and I survived, but you don't for fear of it being dismissed.

The, Oh, so what syndrome, you don't know, you have never been there, well, where have we been, we maybe have been someplaces you don't ever want to go to.

I know the feeling of someone really irking you, and you feel like saying, do you really know what goes on, let me tell you, and you decide, but you don't because nobody ever wanted to know, and nobody had the capacity to care.

You also need to be aware of others, they may have feeling so much the victim of abuse, so we need not to be so insular in our approach to other peoples' problems, if we do then we negate ourselves to others problems.

We survive because we put so much into our lives, we give up our childhood, we make up so many lies, just to survive, we become liars, when we are not liars, we do it to survive.

It sure hurts me to lie, but in the face of adversity, it is the only survival instinct I know, and it is the only way to keep my sanity.

So we live the eternal lie. How much damage is held in that lie, the lie, of your childhood being taken away, robbed, stolen, they get away with it, you don't, you suffer the hurt, they don't, or do they

I just so much hope that they do. That is if they really understand the damage!!!!

I do'

ste