Stalker Issues

[concerned_husky]

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[C. E.]

Just a note of support to you, CH. I had a similar issue with an older male. A wise friend told me that I had to eliminate any opportunity our paths would cross, and that I had to be pretty brutal about "cutting him out" - that even the slightest indication of manner or favor would be taken by him as a sliver of hope which would be grasped at in desperation. It seems similar to any addiction - and we are the drug of choice to these obsessive addicts. It is sometimes not enough to passively not say "yes" - sometimes you have to forcefully say no - like you did in the store.

I am not familiar with all the details (although I suspect you have posted them in the main forum so I could look there). But I would forward to you the wisdom of my friend. If you are like me, it will be difficult. I tend to err on the side of being polite, and hate the idea of hurting anyone's feelings or causing heartache. But that is precisely what feeds the signals you send, signals that an obsessed person will misinterpret.

 

[concerned_husky]

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[Obi]

What about a restraining order?

 

[concerned_husky]

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[bluesky]

Husky

I feel very sad that you are in pain and going through such a rough time.
You have my prayers and concern. Please do what ever you need to get safe.
Bluesky

 

[concerned_husky]

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[woodenshoes]

Concerned Husky.

My thoughts and prayers are for you. Take care of yourself. I hope you made your point to her.


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