"I guess it appeals to those who don't want to be homosexual (and who does?)"
"Ya uhhhhh me? lol I'm a gay, single man, parent of one kid, and I would soooo not ever change any of that. I have never in my life wished I was any other way. I think most gay guys who living they best gay lives would say fuck yes I want to be gay."
"Shit like that - "its not a choice because nobody would choose this" fucking sucks. If you dont get how its offensive, then know that theres lots of guys out there thinking this life fucking slays."
jacats,
Living in the "gay lifestyle" for over 20 years, I can tell you
not all gay people are happy with their life. Unless you have a great career, loads of money, good looking......you will be passed by.
It is great they you are happy with your life, but not all can and do say that.
I grew up totally disassociating that I was a boy/male. Due to the rejection of my sex by my mother and her perverted sex abuses/physical, emotional abuses towards me, along with being used as an oral sex machine for some adult males, I developed various masks, and various personalities to be accepted by persons I met, I lived in a developed imaginary state, always to be someone else. At one point, I did set out to have a sex change, but it came to a dead end. And I'm very glad about that.
So I was a CSA victim, which caused me to turn to men, because it was seemingly the only way I could find some kind of love and acceptance.
I grew up as a child/teenager hungering for men's penises, at times I begged to give them oral satisfaction, which was a thrill and a humiliation all at the same time.
I like you find women very attractive, but I have no desire to be intimate with them, why? My mother took care of that, I can never allow to have a women be that close to me, because on an intimate level I do not trust women. When women touch my buttocks now I cringe and strongly inform them to keep their hands off! It makes me feel dirty, and violated. My mother would goose me in public as a teenager, and then again on my 45th birthday on the streets of Old Montreal.
I do not hate women, most of my friends are women, I have very few male friends as I can sense I make them uncomfortable, which can be an heartache, but I do understand.
So I say all this in retrospect, that
"IF" anyone who is gay, feels "offended" by the statement you made
""its not a choice because nobody would choose this" fucking sucks. If you dont get how its offensive," Then I can say that those "persons" are truly not all that secure in their sexuality.
If they can not understand why many do not have the same "feelings" about living the gay life, then they do not have empathy towards those that have suffered a different life then they. And that is rather self-centered, and selfish.
Since I have been on MS especially in the last couple of weeks, I am beginning to understand and see why and how I am so screwed up due to other's abuses towards me. I think I am truly beginning to see so much, and I need to take it one step at a time.
Finally, let us just learn from one another, without any self-righteousness, and condemnation because someone see's things differently because of their own life experiences which they have suffered.
I hope I have made some sense here, if not let me know.......
Later.....