Spotlight--A Movie to Be Seen

[sorryson]

AS a survivor of a priest teacher this movie hit a chord with me. It showed how the Boston Globe brought the CSA to the attention of the world. It was well done and the scenes with victims was sensitive and not sensationalized. I found myself wandering and thinking about my abuse, it was triggering. I missed parts because of feeling the abuse. My wife was there and she kept a close eye on me. I made it through and all night I kept thinking. I thought about how the church could allow this to happen and continue.

I would like to see again to fill in the blanks I missed.

It can trigger so if you go, take someone you trust with you.

 

[DavoSwim]

Hey,

I really admire you for being able to watch that movie. I'm a survivor of priest abuse as well, but I know there is no way I could watch it. Even when I'm watching tv and commercials for the movie are shown, I get really upset and it brings back bad memories. I'll change the channel or leave the room when the commercials are on. I'm just not in a place where I can watch it.

I'm sure there is value to the movie and it can raise more awareness about the scandal, what contributed to it and the consequences to the church's actions (or inactions). I firmly believe that everything the church got, it deserved.

Maybe in time, I'll be able to see it. Again, it's a credit to you that you could watch it.

Dave

 

[sorryson]

Dave It was a difficult movie to watch. My wife held my hand and wrapped her arms around me as I sometimes began to cry. My mind wandered and saw my own abuse. I think seeing how good the journalist were and their need not to give up gave me some type of strange hope. Hope that there are good people in this world. I have been to different support groups and see many victims so ill treated by their families, I read the stories here. I look at my own life and I turned on my Dad without knowing the causes of his troubles. I was no better than those families. But these journalists never gave up. You could see their disgust in what they were learning. Families of the abusing priests trying to protect them and denying what they did to the poor boys and girls. I think that is what carried me through the movie. The parts where the victims spoke are blurred because it was at those times I cried or my thoughts went to my abuse.

I would not have gone if my wife had not been with me. It is triggering but she is my rock of gibraltar. She can hold me without speaking, rubbing my head and just being there. Never making me feel bad from a nightmare or flashback. I am lucky to have her and why she puts up with someone so damaged as me and my family I do not know.

Dave I understand how you feel. I watch TV and a movie or one of those shows come on dealing with sexual abuse and I cry and have to leave the room. The movie was not as intense from the victims side as some of the TV shows and movies. I would say only go if you feel comfortable and even then take someone who has been there for you.

Paul

 

[zip14]

Just watched the trailer and couldn't see past my tears half way through. Am going to watch at home tonight.

Not sure if it was bc of triggers or because I feel like this film and others like Swift Current & Call Me Lucky are proving how mainstream CSA really is.

Anybody who turned their eyes away and let it happen, who passed the trash knowingly or who buried the truth should be very concerned. The day will come when the spotlight will be on their organization and in turn themselves.

This was not as is not a Boston Catholic Church issue. They are just the tip of the iceberg and I hope that mainstream media picks up on that reality.