sorry again
sorry again
- Thread starterTrevor
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roadrunner
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Trev,
No need to be sorry bro. All these things you are saying are things that need to come out. Everyone here knows that and I bet no one is mad at you.
Much love,
Larry
No need to be sorry bro. All these things you are saying are things that need to come out. Everyone here knows that and I bet no one is mad at you.
Much love,
Larry
Hey Trev,
You said in one of your other posts that people just care because they want something from you.
I can't speak for others just myself and you are right, I care because I want something.
I care about your ranting and raving because you say what I feel sometimes but might not say and it makes me feel better.
I care because I want you to deal with all of this while you are young so you don't have as many wasted years that I have had. This would make me feel better and I can always use some help feeling better.
I care and give love because I've read that the best way to get what you want is to give it. So when I care about you I am being selfish becuase I am giving you the lo0ve and care I want for myself. If something in my sorry life can help someone else suffer less than I am getting a lot in return.
Sunny
You said in one of your other posts that people just care because they want something from you.
I can't speak for others just myself and you are right, I care because I want something.
I care about your ranting and raving because you say what I feel sometimes but might not say and it makes me feel better.
I care because I want you to deal with all of this while you are young so you don't have as many wasted years that I have had. This would make me feel better and I can always use some help feeling better.
I care and give love because I've read that the best way to get what you want is to give it. So when I care about you I am being selfish becuase I am giving you the lo0ve and care I want for myself. If something in my sorry life can help someone else suffer less than I am getting a lot in return.
Sunny
markgreyblue
Registrant
(((TREV)))
i didn't read anything to hate -
it's funny - ...my therapist used to say
"the poison must come out" - in terms of all the words and anger -
you been through a lot - it MUST come out oK?
mark
i didn't read anything to hate -
it's funny - ...my therapist used to say
"the poison must come out" - in terms of all the words and anger -
you been through a lot - it MUST come out oK?
mark
Trevor,
Together we're strong. When you tell us what hurts, it enables us to be supportive of you, which strengthens all of us including you.
Talk, rant, swear if need be, but keep communicating. That's the key to getting past all this.
Lots of love,
John
Together we're strong. When you tell us what hurts, it enables us to be supportive of you, which strengthens all of us including you.
Talk, rant, swear if need be, but keep communicating. That's the key to getting past all this.
Lots of love,
John
roadrunner
Registrant
Trev,
I am hoping it will help you to hear this. A lot of what you are doing is expressing how you feel, and that is VERY important (not to mention very brave).
As an abused teen you have a lot of extreme feelings: about yourself, about other people, and about what happened. All that stuff is mixed up in a very confused way in your head, and that doesn't make it any easier to talk about it.
It's rather like having a jar of coins: lots of different kinds and all mixed up. If you want to make any sense of the jar, you have to count the coins. But you can't take the quarters out first, then the dimes, and so on. They're all mixed up together. So the only thing to do is dump out the jar, then start working with what's on the table. It may seem a chaotic way to do it, but what other way is there? Anyone with a jar of coins would have to do the same thing.
What you are doing now is dumping out the "jar" of YOUR feelings, exactly as all of us have done in the past or in some cases are still doing now. You aren't doing something weird or bad. You are doing exactly what you HAVE to do.
No one will be angry because it's your mess on the table. It's your turn! Everyone knows and accepts that. As you sort through what's on the table we will all try to help you to "count" and see what's there.
I could go crazy with this comparison to the jar of coins, but it's the weekend so I will spare you.
The point is, bro, just say what you need to say and don't worry about apologies. You are doing exactly what everyone else is doing, except in your own special way. Everyone here expects that, and we all respect your right to do that.
So just post away Trev, and we will be here for you.
Except, of course, hands off the Joe Cool glasses please.
Much love,
Larry
I am hoping it will help you to hear this. A lot of what you are doing is expressing how you feel, and that is VERY important (not to mention very brave).
As an abused teen you have a lot of extreme feelings: about yourself, about other people, and about what happened. All that stuff is mixed up in a very confused way in your head, and that doesn't make it any easier to talk about it.
It's rather like having a jar of coins: lots of different kinds and all mixed up. If you want to make any sense of the jar, you have to count the coins. But you can't take the quarters out first, then the dimes, and so on. They're all mixed up together. So the only thing to do is dump out the jar, then start working with what's on the table. It may seem a chaotic way to do it, but what other way is there? Anyone with a jar of coins would have to do the same thing.
What you are doing now is dumping out the "jar" of YOUR feelings, exactly as all of us have done in the past or in some cases are still doing now. You aren't doing something weird or bad. You are doing exactly what you HAVE to do.
No one will be angry because it's your mess on the table. It's your turn! Everyone knows and accepts that. As you sort through what's on the table we will all try to help you to "count" and see what's there.
I could go crazy with this comparison to the jar of coins, but it's the weekend so I will spare you.
The point is, bro, just say what you need to say and don't worry about apologies. You are doing exactly what everyone else is doing, except in your own special way. Everyone here expects that, and we all respect your right to do that.So just post away Trev, and we will be here for you.
Except, of course, hands off the Joe Cool glasses please.
Much love,
Larry