sometimes you just gotta tell

[shadowkid]

since i came here i have been doing things i never thought i would do ,things i swore i would never do . has anybody else got to the piont where you have to tell somebody ,just to keep up a normal life?i mean like at my job ,all theses memories and ghosts ,from my past along with the death of my grandmother and my perp getting out of prison has made me miss a lot of work the last few months ,the flu only works so many times ,also i pulled myself off my crew because i felt i was not safe to work with at this time .all of which has my boss wondering bigtime.he called me in to talk and i felt like i had to explain at least some of what was going on . i didn't give details just that i was abused as a kid and am having problems with it now ,and that my perp is out of prison .he was so cool about it said if i need time off just ask ,and if he can help in anyway ,also said the company will pay what my insurance won't !!if not for the people here giving me the courage to tell him i would have lost my job!! i can see the changes in me since i came here ,i am getting better .i am so glad that i was able to explain without being overun with shame ,he made me not feel ashamed ,maybe talking to normal people about our abuse isn't always a bad thing ,i swore i would never tell anyone again ,but it is ok!!thank you all for helping me make these changes adam

 

[roadrunner]

Adam,

It's so cool to see you coming along so quickly, but remember that all these achievements are YOURS! The courage had to come from YOU! The words were YOURS. It may be that the guys here helped you to see that you had these resources, but remember the old saying: You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

You are getting better, yes, and this progress is all yours bro. Well done.

Much love,
Larry

 

[reality2k4]

Adam,

Ok, you are doing things great right now.
Being open and honest with your boss shows that you are trying to do the best for you,and your future.

take all the time off you need, but no be hurting on your own,

ste

 

[RICK57]

Adam - I'm pleased that you took the risk of telling your boss and that it worked out! I'm 2 years down the line from that now and will soon be making the biggest step I ever have in reclaiming my life back.

Court Number 2...watch this space.

It's a hard road Adam - walking it is what we need to do!

Best wishes ...Rik

 

[onlyakid]

Thats what happened when I had to tell my mother. I had not been able to attend my college classes because of my social anxiety. This happened several semesters in a row, and I thought that my mother was going to do something drastic thinking I was disrespecting her by lying, not going to class, etc. So I figured if I didn't want to risk having to move out I had to tell her. This was in 2004, I found the website in February/March, went to a retreat in May, and told my mother sometime around June/July.

I know it must have been hard on you, even with not telling the whole story, I know it was hard on me.

 

[andrew51]

Slowly but surely Adam. You're doing well. Don't forget to just have fun. Being a normal 21 yo is the biggest part of you. Peace, Andrew