Sometimes the child loves it - Triggering

[Alonso]

I just watched a Spanish short film about CSA. It's an approach I hadn't seen before. The child (a girl in this case) absolutely adores the abusing father. It reminds me so much of my own case: Middle class family, so educated and respectable. And my mum was the best in the world, I loved her so much, I would never tell anyone about the "special" things she did with me.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=8375rU2KdnU (Spanish with English subtitles)

 

[Ceremony]

Hi Alonso, can you please edit the Subject and add "Triggering". I noticed your post hoping to find any link for men's sexual assault groups in Spain. I've not had a chance to search, though, I think I would start with an EU search. That might be a bit tricky from here, but I have some ideas.

 

[Ceremony]

I've seen a film like that before. It is up to us to note that the child is groomed and hasn't the experiences to know what's going on isn't healthy for their future. It's trauma in the making. How sad, right? I'm sorry your mom has done some similar grooming to you.

I've been working on neglect betrayal, and it's very painful. To add the physical, either sexual or hitting and verbal attacking makes that confusion and pain far more complex.

The work toward healing such confusion will take extra care to look toward small parts at a time. My therapist has noted that for my case, I have to compartmentalize some of the many, just so I can work on one thing.

I have had a near break-down recently, owing to the level of pain, and depression happening at the same time. It's been overwhelming me. Sometimes I can't think at all.

 

[Alonso]

I'm sorry to hear you're enduring so much pain. Maybe you're trying to deal with too much at once? I know I do that myself very often. Today, for instance, I have requested advice from two separate CSA organizations, sent an email about CSA to some relatives, and spent a lot of time checking CSA Facebook pages (not to mention posting in this forum). That's probably too much and now I feel overwhelmed, I feel the need to numb my feelings. It's probably better to pace ourselves and avoid trying to do too much at once. Easier said than done, I know.

Hi Alonso, can you please edit the Subject and add "Triggering".

Sorry, I had forgotten about that. Done.

I noticed your post hoping to find any link for men's sexual assault groups in Spain. I've not had a chance to search, though, I think I would start with an EU search. That might be a bit tricky from here, but I have some ideas.

I'm interested in that idea of the EU search. Maybe we can ellaborate in that thread.