Something off my chest.

Something off my chest.
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brian-z

Registrant
I have a feeling there is going to be some backlash from this post. But there has been some hand wringing over the possibility of people coming on to this site who are not who they claim to be. Some of you know why this is a sore subject for me. As the former chief resident lion tamer, I must tell you, THATS LIFE!!!! Your going to find them on this site, just as your going to encounter them in the real world. Just use a little common sense, thats all it takes. If you get a bad vide from someone stay away from them. If you see someone doing something inappropriate, report it.

Most lions are found out pretty quickly, and are not nearly as well camouflaged as they think.
 
Is there anyone you suspect here? The thought of perps cruising these boards has occured to me, but everyone here seems to be honest to me. Note to everyone here: If anyone here makes you feel uncomfortable or asks you for pictures or personal information, please bring it to everyone's attention! Together, we can sniff out "lions".
 
i joined after the lion mess that drove all these changes, but so far everyone i have talked with seems pretty genuine. i guess, i take safety in the way i am always only partly known on the net. if things got out of hand, i would just go away, and create another id. i have told some people here some things i would never tell the people around me, in part because it is easier talking when you dont have to look at them in person. here i can be myself, and i hope no one spoils that, but i suppose there are always risks
 
Brian:

Some good advice & good truths, from someone who's really been thru it. Thank you.

One things for sure, there's no need for hand wringing here--except by any perps unwise enuf to prowl this site.

Fellow Wolves:

Anyone who has any valid concerns or info about possible perps or acts of perpetration should get away from them & contact as many moderators & administrators as you can immediately.

And heed Brian's advice. It's solid. Use common sense "wolf intuiton" in communications & how much info you offer to anyone. Use your survivor wolf sense of smell to pick up on the vibes, the stench, of any potential perps who prowl around you. Stay away. Howl a warning.

As Brian says, lions don't camoflauge very well. They just don't fit into wolves clothing.

Know yourselves. Know your friends. Listen to the voice within yourselves. The howl of the wolf.
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not sure who you might be referring to now, but i did experience the backlash from a religous zealot several months ago that obviously came to this site to profess his religous beliefs and not because he was a victim or survivor....he took issue with me on several points and in several pms....talked to the administrators and they took away his pm ability....then he kept posting his religous bigotry and they pulled his membership....

i really think that you have a duty to all of us to at least notify the administrator's of your suspicions about any individuals that you suspect are here under false pretenses....i agree you should not post their names here....but you seem to have great insight in this matter and i for one, believe it is your duty to take your concerns to the administrators....please consider doing so if you think they might hurt anybody here....i know i am in great pain and just cannot endure much more.....the negative impact i received from the previously referred to individual has made my postings here almost obsolete and has made me limit my responses to others unless i really think i might be of some help to them.....i no longer feel comfortable here in some ways........

please do what you think is the right thing to do......michael
 
HI:
I was involved in a situation where a lion was smelled out. And I have to tell you that Admin was excellent in the way it was handled. It was a bit scary at the time but I got to tell you my sense of safety here went way up.

I too would tell everyone here new and old (not age) to report immediately any inappropriate behaviour in chat or for that matter even in a private message through this medium or to your email address.

Perps have an odour that is unmistakable to us and we got to look after our Den for everyone


Mike

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Thanks for the support Guys, and I agree with Brian who started the post - ANY internet site can harbour people who are not who they say they are, and are there for some reason not in line with the sites aims,

We have to be aware of that, and be very careful about giving personal details away such as telephone numbers, email address and our exact home address.
We have all the facilities here to communicate.

The Private Message system is absolutely private, there is nobody here who can intercept a PM and read it.

As for dealing with anyone who comes here for reasons other than support and healing from SA we act as fast as we can, but it's something we can only do when we are confident we have sufficient proof of a persons intent. Which isn't always easy.
But we have uncovered people whose intentions were dubious and they have been banned, and they always will be.
A lot of work goes on behind the scenes.

But our best defence is the members reporting anything that unsettles them.
I know it's something we all dislike, the "Big Brother" thing, but the alternative is chaos and perps.

A good indication of how good any site is, and if it protects it's members, can be assesed by looking to see how busy the forums / chat are, and how long do people stay active on them ?
This site is busy and many people have been here a long time, it's safe.

But it takes everyone to keep it safe.

Dave
 
What sick creep would prey on people that are already down? :mad:

It's so hard to have any faith in the world. The worst part is not knowing if this is normal thinking or from the abuse! As if we haven't had to fight til were exhausted already! :mad: :mad: :mad:
 
Michael,

If I feel there is a threat to the health and welfare of anyone at this site I have and will take what ever action I feel is appropriate to the situation. Our religious friend in Edmonton, wont be back.

To All,

I would advise everyone against making public accusations. Think how you would feel if you turned out to be wrong.

Brian.
 
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