is it just me or are some stories unbelievable
Is it just me or does anyone else here think that some of the stories that are posted here are becoming more and more unbelievable? At times it feels like I'm watching a competition to see who can outdo the other with a more dramatic tale.
I come here for a reason and have received good advice from some members but it sort of demeans this support group if some of this stuff is left unchecked.
I'm just putting this out there. It could be something so simple like I live in a vastly different world on the other side of the Atlantic and don't understand or comprehend the American way of life as I can see here that most members are from the USA.
Maybe, I'm missing something.
Actually a great number of us here would care if someone is coming here to post fabricated or sensationalized stories. Unfortunately, that has happened here in the past. Compassion does not mean we have to toss common sense to the wayside. If you suspect something is amiss, it could be.If someone is adding something to the narrative, who cares?
I absolutely believe the survivor stories shared here, without question. I consider it an honor and privilege to be trusted by my fellow survivors to be part of the safe place for survivors to share their personal stories. And as echoed already, I would be concerned about fabrications. Lastly, may I suggest the Private Forum category for survivors to posts in a private and protected category forum accessible to only registered members.Is it just me or does anyone else here think that some of the stories that are posted here are becoming more and more unbelievable?
Well said. The mods have indeed weeded out "fakes" in the past and I'm grateful for that.There **are** occasional "fakes" but they eventually show their true colors and are weeded out by the mods.
Very well said, Alex. I agree.Actually a great number of us here would care if someone is coming here to post fabricated or sensationalized stories. Unfortunately, that has happened here in the past. Compassion does not mean we have to toss common sense to the wayside. If you suspect something is amiss, it could be.
Well stated. I know from my past what it feels like to not be believed and I'd always leaned towards believing another Survivor without any doubt, but I got burned a few times by people who turned out to be fakes. I am more cautious now. Like Giovanni said, I do accept that the majority of stories here are genuine. Like others also said, those that are here as fakes tend to expose themselves and are removed, as it should be.Thank you for all of your feedback and for the support that I received privately.
Please be aware that I was not undermining the genuine articles and contributions here but I am glad that at least I have achieved my objective which is to bring this out in the open.
I still maintain that there is a lot of over dramatised bullshit here and if some of you guys are so gullible to entertain this, by all means continue. One experienced long time member here contacted me privately and sent me this message and i quote '' there is a ton of fabricated and exaggerated crap being posted. The ones who do it are usually looking for attention and they come here because they know that gullible men here will believe anything they are told no matter how outlandish it is. The ones making up stuff enjoy manipulating others. It's a major problem''.
Kevin, I am well aware and horrified of the abuse that was and is most likely still going on with the various churches and as a citizen of Ireland just like you, I keep myself up to date of what's going on. It is still causing controversy here and is debated on the national airways regularly so I'm not naive.
NC stated that the moderators usually identify and deal with this problem but I wouldn't be too sure of that as they must be very busy monitoring the content here.
Just a few days ago, a contributor stated the physical attributes of a 12 or 13 year old girl in fairly graphic detail and how she excited him and he got away with that and in fairness, another member here told him that he needed therapy.
I do accept that the majority of stories here are genuine and I feel sympathy and learn from all of those contributions. I never ever read a story to see was it real or unreal but some were written and they were obviously so blatantly untrue as they tripped themselves up later that it defeats the purpose of malesurvivor's ethos and values.
All I'm asking for is keep it real.
I am curious what your criteria is/are for judging what is bullshit and what is not. Stating that some of us are gullible does not sit well with me. So lets get it all out in the open, that is a good idea.I still maintain that there is a lot of over dramatised bullshit here and if some of you guys are so gullible to entertain this, by all means continue.
Thank you for all of your feedback and for the support that I received privately.
Please be aware that I was not undermining the genuine articles and contributions here but I am glad that at least I have achieved my objective which is to bring this out in the open.
I still maintain that there is a lot of over dramatised bullshit here and if some of you guys are so gullible to entertain this, by all means continue. One experienced long time member here contacted me privately and sent me this message and i quote '' there is a ton of fabricated and exaggerated crap being posted. The ones who do it are usually looking for attention and they come here because they know that gullible men here will believe anything they are told no matter how outlandish it is. The ones making up stuff enjoy manipulating others. It's a major problem''.
Kevin, I am well aware and horrified of the abuse that was and is most likely still going on with the various churches and as a citizen of Ireland just like you, I keep myself up to date of what's going on. It is still causing controversy here and is debated on the national airways regularly so I'm not naive.
NC stated that the moderators usually identify and deal with this problem but I wouldn't be too sure of that as they must be very busy monitoring the content here.
Just a few days ago, a contributor stated the physical attributes of a 12 or 13 year old girl in fairly graphic detail and how she excited him and he got away with that and in fairness, another member here told him that he needed therapy.
I do accept that the majority of stories here are genuine and I feel sympathy and learn from all of those contributions. I never ever read a story to see was it real or unreal but some were written and they were obviously so blatantly untrue as they tripped themselves up later that it defeats the purpose of malesurvivor's ethos and values.
All I'm asking for is keep it real.
I'm reminded of the time I posted in a certain subreddit about my abuse story, that I'm a man who was abused by my female partner. More than a hundred people told me to shut up, accused me of lying, called me a misogynist, and said I should kill myself. They "knew" I was lying. I wasn't.All I'm asking for is keep it real.