Some points to remember

Some points to remember
R

roadrunner

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I was just recently sent this by a fellow survivor who doesn't use MS, and I thought it might be worth sharing. As I read through the list so many of the points rang true to me and seemed to be things that, as a survivor, I need to keep reminding myself.

1. At least 2 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.

5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

6. You mean the world to someone.

7. If not for you, someone may not be living.

8. You are special and unique.

9. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you.

10. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.

11. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.

12. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won't get it, but if you believe in yourself, probably, sooner or later, you will get it.

13. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.

14. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know.

15. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.

Much love,
Larry
 
Larry, hello,

I came across these points, and I got an idea that some of them, I can't understand. For instance, who is that someone whom I don't even know and who loves me? Is there a proof of their existence? I just don't get the meaning of this point. Maybe someone has simply created this point to make me think of the possibility that there is such a person. However, I doubt they actually live.

Thanks for letting me express my opinion.

Alex
 
Alex,

I have seen these points many times.
It is true that someone you dont know loves you.
Just like you walk down the street and think oh, he/she is cool and would love to know more.

Ppl also see you that way too, and you may not even know it because love is never someone coming up and saying they fancy you, it is about courting, or being where you hang out etc.

Larry is talking about how we perceive ourselves as unlovable, or that is how I think.
Who? Would ever want to love me, I cant even think on that one,

ste
 
two people in this world love me enough to die for me? havent met them yet ,. shadow
 
i dunno shadow kid -

i bet you cannot really ask someone that question -

but -

i don't think it's something - you really ever admit or know it - until it just happens.

- you are loveable shadowkid.

i believe that -

i hope you come to believe it and know it too.

mark
 
Adam, you are someone who would die for another.
A great strength in man.

What am I talking about?
When I was young, if ever I saw an accident I always wished I could swap my life for their death.

I guess there are more than two ;)

ste
 
Alexey and Adam,

Well, these are not my points, in the sense that I didn't compile them.

But I rather like the one you question, Alexey. For me the idea of that one is that we often don't recognize the fact that we are loved or even know where the love is coming from. But it is real just the same.

Adam, perhaps you have met them, but they were not called upon to make sacrifices for you. And so far as love from unexpected directions is concerned, how about the little girl who ssid she loves you?

I think what this list really does is challenge our feeling that we are unlovable. That feeling, a relic from the times of our abuse, just isn't true. We are as lovable as anyone else in the world.

And so, on that note...

Much love,
Larry
 
Guys,

Most of you have probably noticed the way I end most of my posts. It may seem superficial, but that is not the intent. When I sign off with "Lots of love", it is an honest attempt at communicating what is in my heart regarding the person/s being posted to.

So Alexey, Adam, and others, although it may seem disingenuous at times, I say it because I mean it, and because I've seen enough of the alternative approach to last me a lifetime.

Guys, you are loved.

John
 
it never seems anything but real to me ,just dont stop k? adam
 
Adam,

When terrible things have happened to you it's a child's natural conclusion that he isn't loved. Not only that, he feels he isn't worthy of love either. I have seen for a long time now that this is how you see things and I don't fault you for that.

But you are loved, and by lots of people. This is something I think you will begin to recognize and accept in time, rather like the experience you had with the little girl next door.

Much love,
Larry
 
Larry, thanks for interest. With your help and the help of Ste, I can see that there can be someone who saw me although only once and did fall in love with me. That person (girl) indeed can exist. I myself used to see only once a girl and after that moment was thinking "wow...."

Well, thanks for that reminder. I hope there is such person.

Alex
 
Alex,

There you go. I think the real challenge for a survivor here is to learn to BELIEVE and trust in the fact that he is lovable.

Until we can do that, how many possible loving experiences (not necessarily sexual) will we turn away from, just because we think that sooner or later that other person will discover how unlovable we are and abandon us?

Much love,
Larry
 
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