Slow it down!

Slow it down!
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TeeJayUU

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Hey,

I just wrote an hour ago about being so startled and the reaction.... Well I am still here waiting for the meeting to start. As a SA victim, I KNOW what it is like to be threatened, harassed, and the target of inappropriate touch. Well, a female co-worker has accused me of all of these things that happened to me as a child. I would NEVER do this to ANYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think she was taking the spotlight off a professional issue between us.

Is there ANYWAY she can know what she has done to me on the inside? I just can't stand the thought!

She and her husband just came in, I can see and hear them outside my window. My heart is racing, I am sweating and shakey!

If she only knew what my relative had done to me, and how THOSE accusations feel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I want no part of her and her family, but we are co-workers and will be pushed in close proximity. I will have to deal with this anxiety and panic (yes, again).

OK, sorry, there is no one at work I can turn to and my support at home is unreachable. I had to vent, it makes me feel better. Thanks for listening.

TeeJayUU
 
TeeJay,
I am sorry about what that woman has done to you! I hope everything works out for you!
Casey
 
I think a big part of the problem is that the management and particularly human resources does not know about your situation.

My supervisor is also our human resources person. I was frank with her when I started therapy. Because she is human resources everything has been kept absolutely confidential. In our one-on-one meetings we not only discuss the work I am doing but also how my therapy is going.

After all, you are at least experiencing PTSD-like symptoms. Human resources should be a help to you in mediating these situations. How about your supervisor--also a person who should be mediating?

How about filing a counter complaint? After all, you do feel threatened and harrassed by that woman. That's like re-abusing you. (Maybe she has a history of being abused that makes her especially sensitive to anything that reminds her of it and because of the abuse the perception of what she sees and hears may be distorted.)

Maybe you can use this situation to take back some of the control of your life that your abusers took away from you (and which she, unknowingly, is doing again.)

Good luck. I really hope that your situation improves. I've been in similar situations and had to move around some until I found a work environment that worked for me, not against me.

That didn't happen in anything close to 'overnight' but it has happened and I am glad to know for a fact now that it is possible.
 
Teejay
Listen to Brayton, USE the people who have a responsibilty to ALL the employess. Don't get trampled underfoot, stay calm and engage your brain before your mouth.

Dave
 
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