Should male survivors who have gone on to abuse be allowed to post?
Should male survivors who have gone on to abuse be allowed to post?
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Hi LoneWolfX
Your story of guilt and suffering abuse have shown the remorse of that problem when you were in abuse. Your caretakers ignored you, ignored the signs, and ignored what caused the problem you face with guilt.
I think grief about this will be part of taking care of what's part of you, and I don't think seeking to find a way to let it go helps you. The guilt though, when the balance of what happened to you, will be weighed by this one processing of guilt, in me I validate you, your guilt, and grief. I will stand with you about this, it's about listening to you. And when the time is right, it's about you listening to you. I'm in the throws of that so deeply, a second round of deepest emotions and waves of pain surface with me. But, they're a bit balanced by the hope that my time spent with those emotions are either followed by or soon processed with the benefits of this work. The benefits are hard to describe at this point and I am pained to admit that. I see a shorter time spent in the deepest pain. I see a small flicker of self worth. I see I want to look at me and listen to me. I'll take those three and keep hoping for the progress of more.
Keep your faith in a process you're building. It's time consuming and vulnerable to outside influence, and that ever present self talk to ourselves. The balance might take longer for some, and with support maybe those who don't get there will still keep trying. Helping each other will be what this is all about.
Your story of guilt and suffering abuse have shown the remorse of that problem when you were in abuse. Your caretakers ignored you, ignored the signs, and ignored what caused the problem you face with guilt.
I think grief about this will be part of taking care of what's part of you, and I don't think seeking to find a way to let it go helps you. The guilt though, when the balance of what happened to you, will be weighed by this one processing of guilt, in me I validate you, your guilt, and grief. I will stand with you about this, it's about listening to you. And when the time is right, it's about you listening to you. I'm in the throws of that so deeply, a second round of deepest emotions and waves of pain surface with me. But, they're a bit balanced by the hope that my time spent with those emotions are either followed by or soon processed with the benefits of this work. The benefits are hard to describe at this point and I am pained to admit that. I see a shorter time spent in the deepest pain. I see a small flicker of self worth. I see I want to look at me and listen to me. I'll take those three and keep hoping for the progress of more.
Keep your faith in a process you're building. It's time consuming and vulnerable to outside influence, and that ever present self talk to ourselves. The balance might take longer for some, and with support maybe those who don't get there will still keep trying. Helping each other will be what this is all about.