SHORT CUT TO INNER PEACE

[Mike Church]

I have read with a great deal of interest and pain all the posts since I have been here.

Invariably it surrounds the issues of selfesteem, selfworth, dignity, acceptance of ho we are and what happened, pain, acting out and fears.

Additionally some of us get truly pissed at how long it takes and some even say why bother.

Let me just say that easy stuff is easy to do. The seemingly impossible just takes a little longer. For some it is years and years.

But my brothers there is a SHORT CUT.

#1

Recognize that it did happen and that you cannot change that. What you can change is the beliefs and issues surrounding it.

#2
Recogize that it was not your fault ever. I mean do this deep down where the little you resides. Do this on an emotional level down where the hurt you resides.

#3
Read carefully K. Singer's article.

Breaking The Cycle of Self-Defeating Behaviors

Now i call this a short cut but really what it is is a siplified road map for my own personal use. There are many other issues but if I can concentrate on those three and really get into them and deal with them it will and has gone a lot better for me. Which means that a whole lot of years suddenly compress but to what level I do not know as yet. I am however far more confident about who I am and I am liking what I see behind my eyes.

 

[Mike Church]

The link is now reestablished for those who want to read it

 

[Marc]

I've been diligently reviewing it since last night. You're right, The article does appear to have an element of helpfullness to it.

Thanks for the direction Mike!

 

[jwh]

Right on, Mike. It has taken me a long time to start to really accept that 1)It did happen, and 2) It was not my fault, not at all! I have really gotten to know the little boy inside of me who was raped--it helps to look at a picture of myself when I was that age; I can't possibly blame what happened on him.

One of my main stumbling blocks was that I would try to change all of the self-defeating behaviors without changing those core beliefs and truly grieving for what happened to me when I was eight. I'm actually still in the process of doing accepting but I'm getting stronger!

Thanks for the encouragement.

 

[Leosha]

I just ask, is it that you can find inner peace, if you did not ever have it? Is it something that you recover, or find for first time? I just do not know that.