Shock and Anger

[kniob]

Today I found out that my perp was released from a youth facalty a year ago. (Not A State Prision which means he won't be considered a sex offended) After serving 3 years. Means hes been out for a while. Im angry at the piss poor justice system. Becuase now hes able to go and lead a normal life...married...DAMN IT he souldn't have a normal life I have yet to have a normal life after all the crap I had to go through. Im thinking about taking him to court but it will be the hardest thing in my life to do...

 

[WalkingSouth]

kniob,

You're correct in saying, "DAMN IT he shouldn't have a normal life I have yet to have a normal life after all the crap I had to go through."

I can only imagine the sense of betrayal you must be feeling right now.

My suggestion would be that you take a week or two to think about what you want to do before proceeding with any type of legal action. There will be a huge amount of mental and emotional energy required and you'll want to be sure you're in a place where you can deal with it.

Please know that should you decide to take him to court, you will have the lot of us behind you in support.

Lots of love,

John

 

[roadrunner]

kniob,

John makes a great point in suggesting that you think about things for a bit. Look into what would be required to prosecute him: what would YOU have to do; how will you feel if he doesn't get the punishment he deserves? That is, give some thought to what is in the best interest of your recovery in the long term, rather than what will serve your anger right now.

There are teen crisis hotlines you can call and it should not take long to get referred to local support who can help you. You will be considered an adult since you are 18, but still, the proper authorities will be happy to help you and address your concerns.

However you decide to go, and again just seconding John, please know you will have our support here. At the end of the day, YOU are the only one who can decide.

Much love,
Larry