Separation/divorce support group

[taipan]

Does anyone know of a good separation/divorce support group....something like this but for those who are struggling through a separation and eventual divorce? I am trying to both heal as a survivor and deal with losing someone I love very very much. And of course Im also trying to cope with the eventual reality of losing my home and moving out (I feel abandoning) of my house and away from my kids. I have not felt hardly ANY feelings since being SA almost 30 years ago. Now I am flooded with feelings and all while my life is crumbling. I am having severe anxiety attacks despite being on anti depressants and tranquilizers. I see a T twice a week to work on the SA stuff but when I'm there I keep bringing the focus around to my failing marriage. My emotions are conflicted and I'm having great difficultly figuring out what they mean and in which realm they belong.

 

[guy43]

Taipan,

I can't speak much to relationship/marriage issues, but I do relate to the feelings of abandonment and loss of a loved one.

I know there are plenty of men here who are either married or been through the whole divorce thing. I hope you can get some of the support you want from this discussion board.

First things first. You're undergoing a major life change (the breakup) and it clearly is what you need to focus on now. No doubt the sa issues will find expression as you cope with your separation.

A major crisis in life is what it sometimes takes to bring everything crumbling down around oneself. Where all the walls and defenses we've built from childhood finally disintegrate. As painful and crazy making this is... It's Not A Bad Thing to Have Happen. It marks the beginning of a new phase of our recovery where making use of all of the tools availible to us can start healing us. The reward is an eventual release from our past and a new found freedom to live a better life now.

hang on bro, it does get better, you can feel better and will.

jer

 

[MrEdd]

(((Taipan)))

I'm sorry you're in such a mess.
I don't know how to help in your situation but I can listen if you need to vent.

We care here.

Edwin

 

[The Dean]

H Taipan,

Ask your therapist about support groups for people facing separation or divorce.

Churches often have groups like this. No matter your religion or lack of it you could check with Catholic Social Services or Lutheran Social Services--they have just about everything a person could imagine.

Bob