Selfish

[SevenTwoTwo76]

I feel very selfish. When I first came to this site I wanted to tell my story for the first time after 12 years. I felt very embarassed. But now after reading many of the posts here I feel embarassed for a different reason. I am selfish. There are so many here who have experienced much worse. I do not want to get into comparing experiences here as we have all delt with trauma. I just felt so alone before. Now I realize that there are many others who have delt with worse and are perservering. It is comforting to know that we are not alone I feel selfish for ever thinking that I was alone. I am a stubborn hard headed man who often fails to see what is right in front of him, but now I see that there is hope where there are so many people who care enough about eachother to take the time to listen and help. There may be some bad people out there but this web site is proof that people are generally good. Thank you all for having the courage to log on and to be a part of the solution!

 

[EGL]

As you said, it's all trauma we've experienced. Yes, some is more horrific than others, but all of it is horrific. I'll tell you what my first therapist told me when I started comparing my abuse to what others had been through. She said that if you get severe burns on both arms, that really, really hurts. But if you just get burns all on one arm, it still really, really hurts. Either way, you are in intense pain. Made a lot of sense. I don't minimize my pain any more.

 

[FLRich]

Seven,

You are not selfish. You are a survivor. I'm glad you found this site. I thank God I found this site. These are the best guys on the planet.

Our abuse experiences may not be the same, or of the same intensity, but the abuse affected each one of us here. It left us all with issues to deal with. It is not selfish for anyone to think that they have a lot on their plate. Just know that this is a brotherhood of survivors who help each other, as they are getting the help they so deserve. I wish you well.