Self-Forgiveness
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Self-Forgiveness
- Thread starterwanderer
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David:
This depends a lot on further details of what happened, and what kind of help you are already getting.
Offhand I would say keep coming here, find a good T if you haven't, and if you can find a good survivor support group in your area give it a try.
Most of all, for me at least, it's about the hard work of believing it wasn't my fault, that I was deceived, tricked, lied to, manipulated & abused by people older, stronger, more powerful and with
more knowledge than myself. People I had seemingly
every reason to believe even as they lied, people I should have been able to trust but couldn't.
It's about not blaming or berating myself, but instead knowing & loving myself for who I am: a person not an abuse, a person who has survived & is learning to thrive beyond the abuse.
Hard work but worth it, especially when I consider
the rather hopeless alternatives.
You're worth it too David. Believe that. Don't continue to re-enact the abuse of your perp upon yourself in any way. Don't let him continue to control your life. The control is yours. Your life is yours. Believe it my friend.
Take care of yourself & take it easy on yourself.
Victor
This depends a lot on further details of what happened, and what kind of help you are already getting.
Offhand I would say keep coming here, find a good T if you haven't, and if you can find a good survivor support group in your area give it a try.
Most of all, for me at least, it's about the hard work of believing it wasn't my fault, that I was deceived, tricked, lied to, manipulated & abused by people older, stronger, more powerful and with
more knowledge than myself. People I had seemingly
every reason to believe even as they lied, people I should have been able to trust but couldn't.
It's about not blaming or berating myself, but instead knowing & loving myself for who I am: a person not an abuse, a person who has survived & is learning to thrive beyond the abuse.
Hard work but worth it, especially when I consider
the rather hopeless alternatives.
You're worth it too David. Believe that. Don't continue to re-enact the abuse of your perp upon yourself in any way. Don't let him continue to control your life. The control is yours. Your life is yours. Believe it my friend.
Take care of yourself & take it easy on yourself.
Victor
David
You were a child and you were abused by an adult/s.
It's nothing to do with your 'stupidity' - it's all to do with their lies.
Remember back to your childhood and another adult you trusted then, did you belive what they told you ? I bet you did, kids believe adults. I believed boys who were barely two years older than me because they were bigger, older, stronger and because that's what kids do. We believe our peers.
Some, unfortunately, lied to us.
Dave
You were a child and you were abused by an adult/s.
It's nothing to do with your 'stupidity' - it's all to do with their lies.
Remember back to your childhood and another adult you trusted then, did you belive what they told you ? I bet you did, kids believe adults. I believed boys who were barely two years older than me because they were bigger, older, stronger and because that's what kids do. We believe our peers.
Some, unfortunately, lied to us.
Dave