seems so much harder when it's a parent

[JAAY]

What you ae sharing with me makes sense. I think that I have been clinging to my old ways but I have they no longer serve me. I been thinking alot about why am I still going the extra mile when I have already given myself emotionally. I guess learning that healthy relationships are a 2 way street is lesson that abused people need to remember.

 

[sadsister]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I cannot begin to imagine the overwhelming pain that my brother must feel. I think there was a lot of emotional blackmail involved in his abuse and I recognise patterns of this in his life today - I guess taught by his dad. I try not to visit this site often in hope that my brother is posting anonymously, but sometimes I feel like I have noone to turn to and the sheer number of responses makes me feel a lot better. I admire all you fighters out there, I really really do.

 

[JAAY]

Sadsisiter,

Thanks for supporting your brother. It means more then you will ever know when someone so close to you believes in what you are saying and wants the best for you. Your posting has made me more aware of my own behaviors. As a kid I would hide and avoid my father. That behavior served me well as kid but as an adult I cannot hide from problems. My father has been dead for almost 17 years and yet I still have this habit of avoiding problems.