Seeing progress

Seeing progress
K

Kenn

Registrant
I clicked on my previous posts just now and saw that I first came here in July of 2004. As I read my first few entries I can see that, while the reason for me coming here (the abuse) obviously hasn't changed, I have grown a lot.

I was led to a group for male survivors, and cycled through two of those groups, and then took "a break" (including a terrific vacation last September) and found myself back here this month.

Why? Because, when I examine my life, I can trace whatever ails me today back to what happened way back in my childhood. Sometimes this simple act of retracing is enough to remind me that I am a survivor. Other times, like right now, I feel eager to dig beneath and explore - whether it's through reading others' experiences or writing of my own.

However I may choose to continue to recover today I can look back and see progress - and so I offer that as hope to anyone feeling discouraged.

Peace,

Kenn
 
i find coming here important to my recovery. i too took a break for a while. there came this point where i need away from everyone else's problems for awhile or something. the thing is, this place helps keep me focused. talking to others often reminds me where i was, and what i need to do to stay on the right track. plus, helping others feels good. if i can make a difference in someone's recovery, it is worth a lot.

i read my first story i posted under my old user name. back then i couldnt even remember all of what happened. that was back in 2002. hard to believe how much i have changed. nothing like looking back over a few old posts to remember.
 
Kenn,

Isn't that the truth. I look back at posts I wrote a year ago and I see all kinds of things that I no longer believe or that no longer trouble me. I smile when I see myself struggling with questions that now strike me as having easy answers.

I guess what this experience shows us is that we make progress slowly but surely. We may not notice the progress from one day to the next, but it's startling when we look back a whole year. I wonder, Hey, do I KNOW that man? ;)

Much love,
Larry
 
Thank-you Kenn for that word of encouragement. I'm quickly coming up on my anniversary date for discovering this wonderful place. It truly is amazing to look back and see the progress.

I look forward to much more work to do and progress to make.

Lots of love,

John
 
John,

I remember the night you came in! You showed up in chat and I commented on your interesting screen name and we chatted for awhile.

When the 30th comes around maybe you could comment on how you think things have changed. Looking back I wish I had done that in May when my anniversary clicked over.

Much love,
Larry
 
Kenn - you are so right. I first came here about 7 months before you...New years Eve. I was on my last legs then, with little hope left. Outwardly I was successful, but internally a mess!

Physical / mental mess.

This was where I learned to fight back! Some of you will know that I eventually made a complaint against the perv! The complaint was accepted and the perv ended up in court. Perv eventually got convicted.

Over the years, I had one major breakdown, and several lesser ones.

Now, I detest injustice, and I speak up!

If you have just arrived here now, tonight, yesterday... this is a place where you can learn to respect yourself again! Don't give up! Fighting back can hurt, but it is the best revenge you can have!

It takes a strong person to come here and say 'I was abused'!

Here's to the future!
Best wishes ...Rik
 
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