Running away from my fears/problems

Running away from my fears/problems
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onlyakid

I was thinking tonight, and I've come to the realization that a big problem of mine is that whenever I have a fear or a problem, rather than attempting to deal with it. I tend to run away from it and do whatever is necessary to avoid the situation.

Anyone have experiences with this?

Jason
 
Jason,

Here is my recipe for procrastination, which I do all the time. I fill my day with little tasks that do need to be done, but which are nowhere near as important as the task I am avoiding. In this way it is possible to put off important tasks for a very long time, even years.

In my case I think this has a lot to do with depression, but yes, I am an expert at dodging things that are really important. To such an extent that when I do them on time, I sometimes actually feel guilty and irresponsible. Go figure.

Much love,
Larry
 
I don't know if your talking about daily problems like bills, work, etc. or fears of facing abuse, but I use my daily problems to help me avoid my real fears. When I'm busy studying, its much harder for my real fears to creep in, and so I'm constantly running. All the progress I've made is when I stop runnning.
 
i think you gotta be somewhere in the middle ,you hold back and i jump in without thinking,i think my way gets me in a lot more trouble than your way would .my problem is if i think about it 90%of the time i chicken out. like with therapy i put it off forever then when i called the said they could see me like right now ,so i went .kept me from freaking mysef into not going .on the other side of it if you read my trouble post you will see what acting without thinking can get you into . shadow
 
Kirk,

I totally forgot about that one! That's another sinister refuge and one that claimed me for years.

The key issue is fear isn't it? If there is an element of fear to something, that makes it a bigger problem and it's more tempting to put it off by dealing with something else that we DON'T fear.

Damn. Another item for my list.

Much love,
Larry
 
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