reconstructing your life (literally)
When I was at my therapy session last week, my T asked me what I thought we needed to be working on. I told him that I knew what subject that I had been avoiding. He asked what it was, and I responded that it was my first wife, Cheryl. We married right out of high school, she was 16 and I was 18 (see my story in the Survivor Stories for the gory details of that fiasco).
Anyway, during the course of the next hour, I could very well see why I had been avoiding it. Much more intense pain and feelings that I been wanting to deal with. My T said that he could see we have a lot of work to do there. It's strange, but I hear guys talk about their ex-wifes as such-and-such kinda psycho-bitch or whatever. I never really could do that, I told my T that I'm still trying to figure out what went wrong way back in 1982 when we got divorced, where did it all go so wrong?
As part of figuring that out, I've started chronicaling my life, from the day I was born on up. I've got a Microsoft Word document with a table of Date, Event, and Notes columns in it to try to bring some order to all these random memories of things I have. I'm listing each major event, each residence, etc. I know, some of you guys are probably thinking this is obsessive orderliness to the extreme, but it really IS helping me remember things from that time period and organize my thoughts.
Anyway, I thought it might prove helpful for some others on here in trying to wade through all these things.
Anyway, during the course of the next hour, I could very well see why I had been avoiding it. Much more intense pain and feelings that I been wanting to deal with. My T said that he could see we have a lot of work to do there. It's strange, but I hear guys talk about their ex-wifes as such-and-such kinda psycho-bitch or whatever. I never really could do that, I told my T that I'm still trying to figure out what went wrong way back in 1982 when we got divorced, where did it all go so wrong?
As part of figuring that out, I've started chronicaling my life, from the day I was born on up. I've got a Microsoft Word document with a table of Date, Event, and Notes columns in it to try to bring some order to all these random memories of things I have. I'm listing each major event, each residence, etc. I know, some of you guys are probably thinking this is obsessive orderliness to the extreme, but it really IS helping me remember things from that time period and organize my thoughts.
Anyway, I thought it might prove helpful for some others on here in trying to wade through all these things.
