Reasons I like myself

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Apology to lipsticklullabies, who created the 'reasons I hate myself' thread. But as he is new person here, and even who is not new persons here, I think this way to think is more importent.

I am not very happy with myself right now, and with some things that have happen in recent months. But none of that make me bad person. I do not think that anyone direct here right now is a bad person. There is way to much reason we can always think on for why we do not like ourself, from past things, and from even now things. But to not like ourself, it put the past to be so much more power of us and importent then it should be right now.

Why I like myself?


I survive it. That means I am strong.

It did not take from my soul, or create me into person I would not want to be. I am myself. I was born a good person. I was good child. I am now good adult. No person or abuse act change that.

I learn from past, weather from five years ago, or five minutes ago. That means I am smart.

This is not only good things of myself, but it is what I can think on right now, because I am not such in the good mood. But I wanted to start a post for this, so that others, they can see of themself what they like, and what is good of them, also.

We all so much, we are ready to admit to people so easy why we hate ourself. But we are more shy to say good things on ourself. But, to do that, you show to others that it is ok that they do it also. One candle can light the dark. I hope others will see this, and share also what is good of them. Things that other people maybe see all the times, but that you just have fear to say 'I am good because of this'. Yes, you are. Please say it here.

Andrei
 
Im good because I didnt quit when it got tough.

Sure I slipped, but I got up again that makes me brave.

I took my perp to court and watched him go down. I didnt respond when his sister heckled me and called me "SCUM" I kept my dignity which means Im better than her. I win.

I give one woman the power to take on the world. That makes me a special guy.

She gives me power to write my story, which makes her special and me, lucky.

Im kind, I can listen, not only do I listen I "HEAR" which makes me one step up the ladder.

A lot of people listen but dont hear. They ignore.

Im special because I inspire people to be strong, I give them hope and courage.

Im special because despite what I've been through, the abuse,drugs and crime, I can still change peoples lives for the better.

I am devine and so are you.

Peace and Love......

Good thread Andrei..... ;)
 
Thanks Andrei. I have actually been thinking about this a lot lately. I went on a trip last week where I tried to reach that little boy in me. I wrote a short story about the experiance. I'm not quite done with it but here is part of our conversation:

But he took parts of us that I missed, that I really missed, I said. He took our innocence, our patience, our playfulness. He took so much of our goodness.
But he didnt get it all. Look at you. Look at your life. You kept much of our goodness. You grew to be a good man, and all those things you missed are still here, in me.

Anyway, I am thankful that I did grow to be a good man. I do like myself now.
I like who I was as a child. In some ways he is the stronger part of me.
I like the life I have made for myself.
I like that I have a job but wish I didn't have to leave right now to get to work on time :rolleyes: but I do. Thanks again for great thread!

Dale
 
Andrei,

LL is expressing how things feel as a young survivor new to recovery, and I guess all of us have been there. But sure, if we refuse to define ourselves according to our abuse we can see lots of things to like about "being me".

Hmmmmm. Okay, a few reasons I like myself:

1. I survived. The things he did could have killed me, and in fact I contemplated suicide several times. But I always fought against those thoughts. I was a brave and determined kid and refused to give up.

2. I did not become like him. I am a good and caring person determined to fight against everything he did to me and other boys, and everything he stood for. I am not perfect, but I have morals and standards that I try to live by.

3. I have taken the responsibility of becoming a husband and father and I feel I have done a good job at both.

4. I have chosen a career and have been successful in it.

5. I have accepted responsibility for my own recovery and recognize that I and no one else have to do the hard work.

6. I have learned to ask for the help I need, not only in recovery from abuse, but in other things as well. When help is offered I try to recognize that it is offered in good faith, accept it and act upon it.

7. I am trying to focus my recovery efforts in the present, which is the only place I am empowered to make any progress.

8. I am learning to take my fears and bad feelings about myself and turn them into positive tools that can help me and others.

There are also areas like being drop-dead gorgeous even at the age of 57, but I won't go there for fear of provoking frustrations among other users of the site.... :)

Much love,
Larry
 
hi Andrei

You are a good person -

I am too - right now - my mind though is very tired -

so I guess I would say I am a good person - becuase I work hard -
somehow I held it together -

and now I am here -

not bad!!!!

way to go - mgb!

:)
M
 
Andrei,

"each small candle lights a corner of the dark".
I posted the lyrics to it, in Books, but it sure is good that if all the candles burn bright together, they will be a strong beam.

You have a lot of brightness in you, and guess we all have a more positive effect on others' lives,

ste
 
Thanks for starting the thread, Andrei. I was thinking the same thing, that we need a post like this.
 
You've done it again, Andrei. You always get back up, and you're always smiling as you brush yourself off. When I think of you, you are always standing in the light, and you are always smiling.....and I don't even know what you look like. So, add that to your list: "I always make Bobby smile." That's a good thing.
 
I like myself because I can laugh in the face of adversity, I can make light of my own troubles.
 
Andrei,

What a marvelous idea, this thread of "Reasons I like myself".

I like myself because I made it, I survived.

I like myself because I have a lovely wife and a very special 22 year old daughter.

I like myself because I was able to become friends with people as a young adult who I am still very close to.

I like myself because I learned how to love in spite of the cruelty with which I was treated.

I like myself because I'm worth loving (even if sometimes I don't think so)

I like myself because the alternative is unthinkable anymore.

Great thread, Andrei. Thanks again.

Lots of love,

John
 
John,

I like myself because I learned how to love in spite of the cruelty with which I was treated.
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Wow, absolutely! This one needs to be stressed again I think.

Much love,
Larry
 
I like myself because,

I have always done what I have to do, even if it takes me a long, long time and I am scared to death.

I have never deliberately hurt anyone else.

I have never given up.

There are people who like me. (is this a selfish reason? - I'm not sure right now.)

Thanks for the this thread, Andrei. We all need to remember these things.

Donald
 
okay i didn't post what i posted so people could sit there and find reasons they hate themsevles.
nor did i diliberatly sit down and make up reasons just so i could list them in a post so people could feel sorry for me.
i listed them because of one of the reasons.
that was the point of the post.
super glad you took the time to realize that.
it makes me feel like, youre like, "oh he's new hes stupid he doesn't know how to think"
and i feel like youre trashing my thread
jesus christ i take a risk coming here and being open about shit and THATS how people are going to respond!?

Yes. Finding reasons to like yourself IS more important to think about.
I agree with you completely.
but you made it sound like i encorage people to think that way.
the way you pointed out that im new here made me feel like shit. it made me feel like, im being brushed aside, shouldnt be taken as seriously.

i do hope you didnt intend to make me feel this way, i hope youre able to assure me that isn't what you meant because if this is the way people are going respond to my posts im not so sure i can keep coming back here.

im sorry if you think im over reacting. i guess i seem to do that sometimes but im pretty sensitive about people not taking me seriously and stuff like that.
i guess im pretty upset right now.
i just thought i needed to tell you how i felt.
 
Lipsticklullabies,

I am very sorry that you feel I was making the point that you do not count because you are new. Point I tried to make, new people here are very emotional and upset, and need to be shown there is good to themself. Even older people here, they need, that same thing. i just used your subject title and changed it to try to say that. I did not say you encourage no one to think that way, and I do not think that. You are new here, I do not even know you. You do not know me either, or anything of me as a person.

English is not my first language. I usually do good enough with it, but some time, what I say, it is not as I mean it. Not often, but it seem it happen this way.

I was going to say more, but it is not to point.

Bye,
Andrei
 
Originally posted by JapanZen:
I like myself because I can laugh in the face of adversity, I can make light of my own troubles.
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"Danger? I laugh at danger! HAHAHAHA!!!"
-The Lion King
 
Lipsticklullabies,

Welcome to Male Survivor. I know that it takes a lot of courage to write that first post here. You aren't sure what you can or cannot write, or how others here will take it. You wrote what you felt, which is absolutely acceptable.

I am sorry that you took Andrei's post the way you did. I assure you that Andrei is the last person here that would ever insult or demean you in any way. Andrei is one of the kindest, most gentle souls here. He has a lot to offer, but does so in a humble and humane way. He certainly didn't mean to hurt you, but instead to help you by also seeing that we all have good qualities in us,too. Our perps couldn't take everything from us. The fact that you are here proves that you are a survivor. That is a strength.

Trust us here, continue to post, and know that Andrei meant no harm. He is a dear young man to many of us here, and once you get to know him, you will think so, too.

Good luck in your healing!
 
LSL,

please do not take Andreis post as some sort of rebuke to your thread.
He is merely stating that there are a load of good things if we take away the bad.

You too, have those qualities, even though right now you are reflecting on things you dislike.
Nobody in here would intentionally hurt a new member so welcome bud.

It is good that you can talk out the hurt, it gets rid of a bit of the crap within you, so carry on doing it, you will be heard.

Myself, I have not been replying so much nor reading threads, but that is how it has to be for me right now.

None of us need to be hurt, and I know that Andrei would be the last to want to hurt anybody.
Please do not take his post as contradiction to your own feelings, I will read your post and respond,

ste
 
This is a very cool thread!

I like myself because.....

I have learned to be kind!

I have come to understand that it is better to accept the truth and be positive about my future.

It is much more rewarding to bring out the best in people then to put them down.

That the little things in life like children playing, taking a dog for a walk and coffee with my aging mother, siblings or friends is priceless.

A good attuide is half the battle.

The best is yet to come!
 
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