Quote of the week.

Quote of the week.
This two arent from here but they sure fit for me. They are from my wife who used to post on here alot under the name 'beautiful disaster' until she got wore out on trying to help me. For her to last as long as she was a testament to her strength and true devotion. I love and miss you baby girl.

"If you do the same thing in the same way everytime you get the same results."

"Situation + Reaction = Outcome....So get off your ass and do something about it!"
 
I'm getting to know all the parts of me now. That will be a lifelong process. I'm not afraid of it anymore. It is scary, but I don't live in fear. From time to time I do live in stupid, but even that I hope to conquer. [Big Grin] I'm finding a way to tell myself the story of my life so that it's a good story of a good person.

I guess life is pretty good, and hope is even better.
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A quote from another 'old timer' Outis.

Joe, you speak the truth!

Dave
 
i dont know if you call this a quote..i read a book..one page each day...its from a book of daily meditations for men...helps me focus the start of the day.... every one is real good....i would like to share todays page...the last of the humsn freedoms is to choose ones attitudes----victor frankl.....when we stand and look at a mountain...it looks awesome..majestic.and perhaps imtimidating..to climb the mountain we will need to select a route..which approach will give us success?which will provide a beautiful view? which is safest? what are the rewards and trade offs among the paths available? in our lives..we usually cannot choose the mountain that face us...but we can choose the best paths to approach them...one path may be a very negative attitude it may feel safe like s narrow ptotected passageway....it is precdicatable..but it keeps us cut off from others.....another path may be filled with too many selfindulgent pleasures and never progress in any direction..another path may be hard and include some risks...but it allows us to be in contact with other and to appricate the beauty along the way....when wemake positive choices about our attitudes..although the mountain is challenging...we are liberated to become the kind of men were ment to be........today i will choose friendly attitudes toward myself that will helpme on my journey gee i really need to heed that thanks steve
 
Steve,

today i will choose friendly attitudes toward myself that will help me on my journey
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What a great piece of advice. And so true. As we deal with our abuse issues, lurking in there SOMEWHERE is usually a desperate need to be more gentle with ourselves.

Much love,
Larry

PS: Can you give us the title of that book of meditations for men? It sounds very interesting indeed.
 
touchstones.......a book of daily meditations for men.........hazelden meditations.......www.hazelden.org....my t suggested this book for me...it is bascially a aa book yet every page i read is so true... helps start my day.........steve
 
if you go to that web site go to daily thoughts..or book store...as i said this is for additicons..yet so many sayings ring so true for me steve
 
Steve,

Wow. I just checked this book out on Amazon and it has five stars and all top reviews. Plus used copies for as low as 45 cents!

I will order a copy - thanks for the tip. It really looks good.

Much love,
Larry

PS: Anyone else who's interested can get the book through our site so MS gets a cut ... yeah, okay okay, of 45 cents! :rolleyes: But of course it's the thought that counts. :)
 
Steve,

Just thought I would let you know that when I tried to order from the USA the shipping costs were too high. So I went to Amazon UK and got a NEW copy for one pence, = less than 2 cents US. :)

Much love,
Larry
 
I am worthy of love I know, sometimes it dont feel like it.
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Michael Joseph, you ARE worthy of love.

Dave ;)
 
A wise friend tell to me, as I have been dealing with the loss of my daughter, he tell to me 'I think your life is not to be decided on how much tears are at your funeral, but by how much smiles and laughs we cause in our time before it'. I think that is very true, and I hope that some day as I die, my life will be one remembered for the good.

VN
 
Stupid people, I know, they are 'out there'. It just sometime seems like there are more of them that I have met then should be true at my age. I have maybe another 50, 60 years of my life, I hope. Can't I meet some of these stupid people some time later, and not all right now?
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By AK when talking about a real bone head person he has to work with in his job.

I think we all can relate at times to the sentiment he expressed!

John
 
From Joe, (outis), about someone who abuse was reported to, but could also be about abusers themselfs:

You know the truth about what he did and what he should have done. You and he each have to live with that knowledge. That is probably more difficult for you than for him.

You each have to live with yourselves. That is certainly more difficult for him than for you.
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Children who are not abused, or otherwise assualted by violence or injustice are capable of freely expressing all their feelings. In doing so they naturally develop the skills necessary to experience intimacy in healthy ways. They also learn how to establish the boundaries they need that will allow them to feel safe when they go out into the world. We never got to understand what it means to feel safe. We never got to see life without the filtering shades of our abuse blocking out part of the sunlight. While we heard the mirthful laughter of other children on the playground, somehow we knew we could not share in their innocent joy.

How true!

Originally posed be Tartugas,

ste
 
Wow, thanks so much for mentioning me ste, I'm honored.

Thought I'd share this with you all. I know it's not by one of us... but I did put it in a message to philobat, so it technically is a quote on the board....

"We raise boys to live in a world in which they are either winners or losers, grandiose or shame filled, or, in the most extreme cases... either perpetrators or victims, the rapsit or the raped. 'I'd rather be a hammer than a nail,' Paul Simon sings. There isn't a man I have met who doesn't understand the chilling implications of that sentiment. If healthy self esteem is the experience of oneself as essentially worth neither more nor less than others, there is precious little training in the current culture of boys." (I Don't Want To Talk About It, Terrence Real p. 166-167)
 
Spring is Nature's way of saying, "Let's party!"

Robin Williams

Happy Vernal Equinox!
 
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who is Vern?

is he new?
 
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