Quick question...

[timsutt67]

I think I mentioned before that I am on another site that has a vast majority of women on it, and they have an extremely tight "no violence in posts" rule. I have revied what is in the sticky here and only found this refence:

We monitor all forums to prevent posts which contain:

* Illegal statements
* Threats of harm
* Explicitly suggestive sexual content
* Perpetrator behavior

Now I don't want to *actually* go out and do something physical to my perp, but expressing the desire can be very cathartic, and allow me to get out my anger. What is the "rule" here about expressing feelings that may not be "politically correct" when it comes to getting out hatred and anger. I am sick and tired of being told to edit my posts by admin because "someone" might be offended, or scared, or take what I say as a license to go out and take matters into their own hands. I feel like I can't actually express my highly negative feelings, and it causes me untold frustration to have to hold in what I actually want to say.

Thanks for the help!

David

 

[Ken Singer LCSW]

David:
We try not to censor posts here but have to stick with some rules because people are at different stages of treatment and can get triggered by violent posts or sexually graphic materials.

You can pretty much say most things short of serious obscenities and threats to specific persons in Unmoderated. If you have some doubts about saying something, maybe you could pm a mod and see if your post might be too offensive for the general public.

Venting can be good for you but if it stirs up too much in others, it should be expressed privately or with your therapist.

Not that we're prudes but we want this to be a safe place for survivors.

Ken

 

[Morning Star]

At times we all need to vent our highly negative emotions and feelings, but make sure it is done where it doesn't harm other people, why not start your own blog?

Here we also get to learn about using our words responsibily, and learn to express in safe ways. And that makes the job moderators more interesting as they really have to be what their name suggests - MODERATE, by allowing bit of ranting, knowing well the person is doing just that and really means no harm.

But then we also need to take care of our own responsibility as the part of this community by refraining from any communication that suggests that it is ok to kill ones abuser, because as we all know that would only perpetuate the abuse, and make them win all over again.

 

[timsutt67]

Thanks for your inputs, I do appreciate it. I think the blog idea is a good one, if I can find one that will be secure enough.