Throughout my relationship with my husband he has compulsively sexually messaged other women, but not followed through. He only recentally disclosed his abuse but a big factor is his sexual identity issues. Physically he responded to the rape and he has a fear that he may be gay so this pursuit of women was to prove a point to him self or the abusers in his head. That I know of there has never been another man
I'm not sure if many people who have split up from their partners will still be around here to answer your question?? I don't read this section of the forum as much as the others but I don't recall anyone saying that this happened to them. Maybe you could try doing a search? Pretty sure the posts here go back years.
This kind of happened to my ex-girlfriend, but it's not like she woke up one morning and found out I'd left her for a guy, but it is the reason why we broke up. She broke up with me. It's not like I scammed her either by getting with her when I wasn't really into her. We had long term plans and I thought I was happy, but things turned out different than I thought.
We still talk at least a couple of times a week, and she's with someone else now who is way more suitable for her than I ever was.
Sometimes you have to if they are too resistant to getting help even if you don't want to initially. I feel that for myself, my leaving for "ME" is a much healthier choice than leaving for another man.
He has met strangers (male and female) from online for anonymous sex. We are currently broken-up, but I blame that more on his depression and need to show power/control in sex than on his desire to "be" with someone.
I cannot deny that knowing he is messing with others hurts me. Knowing he was with a man really challenged my own belief in my desirability. Am I just a turn off to him? Every time he's touched me was he disgusted? The times that the lights were off, was he imagining himself to be with another man? It's a ginormous mind-screw.
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