Progress not Perfection....
I just want to say thanks to everyone who responded to my posts. You insight and input has been really valuable and gratly appreciated. I just wanted to give a little update of what's been going on this week.
As you well know, last week was very trying and painful. Lots of arguements and many sleepless nights. My BF and I still plugged away and tried to comunicate, though it seemed that more often than not we spiraled into these really ugly arguements.
This week things have turned around tremendously. Our phone call have been averaging 3 hours and I have been able to get to bed before midnight just about everynight this week. I had papers due for school, so my BF has been very conscientious about making sure that he doesn't try to monopolize my evenings so that I can get my school work done. He has also been really attentive about asking my if I am tired as it gets later, since he knows that I really need to get me sleep in order to function. I know that it's hard for him to do this things, becuase I can hear it in his voice, but he is trying so hard and I really appreciate the fact that I feel like he is really listening to me and making an effort to change some of his behaviors. I know that there will me more challenges to come, but I see that he is willing to work with me through it. I really love this man and and so proud of him!
Last night (this is really sweet), after we got off the phone he called me about an hour later to to give me a "milk and cookies" kiss (you know how when you are a kid and want to get up in the middle of the night for milk and cookies?) Well, he just said that and got right off the phone since he didn't want to side track me too much. I was so touched that I wound up boo-hooing (but got right back to my paper after I dried my face).
I sent him a letter last week that he got this week. He was really touched by it and he felt really good and reassured that my feelings for him hadn't changed in spite of all the difficulties that we had last week.
So...I just wanted to give you guys some good news, since God only knows that I can talk you all to death when I am having problems...
Again...thanks alot guys!
As you well know, last week was very trying and painful. Lots of arguements and many sleepless nights. My BF and I still plugged away and tried to comunicate, though it seemed that more often than not we spiraled into these really ugly arguements.
This week things have turned around tremendously. Our phone call have been averaging 3 hours and I have been able to get to bed before midnight just about everynight this week. I had papers due for school, so my BF has been very conscientious about making sure that he doesn't try to monopolize my evenings so that I can get my school work done. He has also been really attentive about asking my if I am tired as it gets later, since he knows that I really need to get me sleep in order to function. I know that it's hard for him to do this things, becuase I can hear it in his voice, but he is trying so hard and I really appreciate the fact that I feel like he is really listening to me and making an effort to change some of his behaviors. I know that there will me more challenges to come, but I see that he is willing to work with me through it. I really love this man and and so proud of him!
Last night (this is really sweet), after we got off the phone he called me about an hour later to to give me a "milk and cookies" kiss (you know how when you are a kid and want to get up in the middle of the night for milk and cookies?) Well, he just said that and got right off the phone since he didn't want to side track me too much. I was so touched that I wound up boo-hooing (but got right back to my paper after I dried my face).
I sent him a letter last week that he got this week. He was really touched by it and he felt really good and reassured that my feelings for him hadn't changed in spite of all the difficulties that we had last week.
So...I just wanted to give you guys some good news, since God only knows that I can talk you all to death when I am having problems...
Again...thanks alot guys!
