problem

yeah thats what its here for

- Adam
 
Hmmm, thats not much to go on, could be anything, but I guess he did something really bad.

You will have to outline what he did for replies,

ste
 
Jesse you don't have to say exactly what happened or go into any details, just give us an idea so we know how to help you figure it out.
Or if you don't want too or feel like you can't, that's ok too.

Jay
 
Hi Jesse,

You may feel more comfortable talking about this on the members side. It's restricted access so no one who is not a member will know what's bothering you. It's also a bit "quieter".

It's your call but I wanted to make you aware of that option.

In any case, welcome to MS and I'm sorry you ever had the need to find us.

Regards,

Zipser
 
You can PM someone to help, me if you like, or one of the mods.

ste
 
since you're here i assume he molested you. you know everyone here is in the same boat. i had a boy molest me. he started by just tricking me into taking my clothes off and touching me. before it was over, we had done oral sex and played sex games. everything but actual penetration. whatever happened, you arent alone.
 
i take it you're 15. look it is never right or okay for an older man to take advantage of you. i feared being called a fag so much i blocked it out and lived with it for years. the thing is, it doesnt matter what others think. you know the truth. plus, if he is much older, they will also know what he did is a crime and wrong, and that it wasnt your fault.
 
Is he a man or a boy around the same age?
All abusers make threats, very few carry them out, but you are still thinking he will.

Do you have anyone to share this with outside of here?
Maybe it would be best to phone a help line, as they will have dealt with this situation before.

He needs to be stopped to protect others,

ste
 
There is a significant age difference, but he is an abuser, and he needs to be stopped.
Any threat is unlikely to be carried out, believe me, they dont want to be found out.

Do not confront him without advice, but talk it out here, because you can find ways of doing things without being hurt,

ste
 
Jesse,

This is a safe palce to talk about it, but the best solution would be to find a trusted adult you can go to for help. You need to be sure you are safe and he doesn't continue to do things to you.

People will not hate you or thinkk bad of you. that is a lie many of us have been told and believed. I did myself. i found out to late that there were people would would have believed and helped me if I had asked. You are not responsible for what an abuser does to you.

You unfortunately are not the first person this has happened to and there are people who will help you. School, the police or a rape crisis counselor would be good places to look for help if you are not comfortable talking with your family.
 
Jesse,

he said if i tell anyone then hes
gonna tell all my friends and there
gonna hate me and think im a fag
he was mean
Click to expand...
I think what you need to know right now is that abusers tell boys all kinds of things like this to keep them quiet. I don't know the details of course, but if he tells all your friends, then that means he has to tell them that HE did things to you! Is he likely to do that?

Do you have safe adults you can talk to about this? Your parents, for example? A teacher you trust? School counsellor? Your pastor or priest or rabbi? What you really need is support from safe adults right where you live.

Please keep trying to talk about it here. Do believe me when I say that NOTHING you could say would be new to us here. We have all been through the same or similar things, and we will all believe you and support you and try to help. None of this is EVER the boy's fault.

Much love,
Larry
 
Jesse,

I'm so sorry that happened to you. It happened to me to. He said he'd kill me. Please know that we're your friends here. We understand and can talk it out with you, so don't be afraid to ask for help. Feel free to say what you need to whey YOU are ready to.

I will agree with Larry and others, that you really need to be able to go to an adult you can trust and talk to them about this. It will be one of the most difficult things you have ever done, but at least you will be able to move beyond the fear and guilt. Remember, it is not your fault.

Lots of love,

John
 
Jesse,

Abusers often make threats they know they would never carry out, but yes, you have to take these threats seriously. This is why it's so important to have local support - safe adults you can talk to and get help from where you live. Do you have any people like this?

Much love,
Larry
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top