Possible new job, need your help

Possible new job, need your help
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bisulatino

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Brothers,

I have been interviewing with an excellent company for the past two weeks. First, I had two phone interview testing my technical knowledge, then last Wednesday I went to their headquarters for an all day interview. I was interviewed by 8 - 9 people all day, somewhat to test my technical knowledge but also to see what kind of person I am and how good I am with people and communication.

I had been told a couple times that the interviewers would get together the next day and vote on hiring me to make a decision. I thought they also said that they would call me the next day and let me know the result and when that didn't happen I began to panic. I had felt the interview went great, but I became very worried about my ability to come across as a "people person," something that is difficult for me due to both the CSA and having abusive, cold and emotionally unstable parents. I submitted my work/address history on Thursday along with a thank you note, but on Friday I became really worried about still not having called so I contacted the recruiter and left them a voicemail asking if I misunderstood how I would be notified of the result.

I thought about it a lot this weekend. At first I was really depressed because I immediately assumed I did not get the job. Then I sat down one night and wrote about it and concluded that it does not make sense that a company would submit a job offer the day after. I've dealt with big companies like this before and they usually take at least a week to put an offer together. This made me feel better, and I also began to believe that I was going to get the job because I believe in myself.

As I wait for an answer, I am trying to be positive but every day I am struggling against my own insecurities. I have been praying and my family has been praying for me, and I would just like some fellow survivors to pray or simply send some positive energy my way so that hopefully I am offered the job. Thanks to everyone for all their support.
 
I hope you get the job and I'll certainly send as much posistive energy your way as I can muster!!

Let us know how you get on and good luck!
 
bisulatino,

I know how trying it can be waiting for word to come back about the results after an interview. Hang in there and I hope it goes well for you.

Much love,
Larry
 
Traveller, Larry, John, thank you for all your help. I am just trying to stay positive, and hearing your support honestly gives me a positive charge.

One thing that I find frustrating. I told my dad today "I have a few doubts but I am pretty sure I will be getting a job offer." Instead of supporting me, he immediately countered that with a "don't get your hopes up" type of response. I held my ground and told him how I believe that I did a great job during the interview and am an excellent candidate, but he only responded with "well that may be but someone else they interviewed could be a better candidate." It turned into somewhat of an argument. I am terribly disappointed in my dad, of all people he should be there backing me up. If I don't get the job I will deal with that obstacle when I get there, but until then why surround myself with useless negatives? It's like Schrodinger's cat (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schrodinger%27s_cat), right now I could either have the job or not have the job. Both are equally possible, so I might as well choose the one that will keep me feeling positive.
 
Thank you Tom. Everyone, all your prayers/positive energy appears to be working. The recruiter returned my call yesterday and yes I misunderstood, it is going to take a while for them to make a decision. Not only does the recruiter have to get feedback from each of the persons I interviewed with, but the company is also involved in a huge conference which is slowing the process down even more. Just hearing from the recruiter calmed me down quite a bit, I feel like life is starting to move again and I am continuing to look for job openings and work on applications for them. I have a really good feeling I am going to be offered this job, but if I'm not then I should still be ok.

I've also moved out of my parent's house and am now living with my aunt and uncle. Although my parents and I got along pretty well, that house screamed of hidden tension and echos of bad memories. I am only lucky that I had somewhere else to go.
 
I know ALL ABOUT stressing over waiting for that phone call!!!

The ugly truth is, many times, there are other people more qualified/experienced for the position. And sometimes they pass you up because you left a big piece of spinach lodged in your front teeth during the interview.

But sometimes, they call you because you are

1. Honest
2. Have a good work history
3. Have a reasonable amount of experience
4. And you show an apptitude to learn new things

And if they DON'T call you, it's not totally your fault. More than likely, many different market forces come into play when a potential employer turns down an applicant. Sometimes you gotta just let whatever is gonna happen.....happen. Not everything is under our control.
 
I am an unconditional positivist . . . a survival strategy I know. I recently went through this as well, and it is awfull having to wait fot that call which I interpret as approval/family love. Not getting the call or having to wait presses my abandonment buttons. My faith, which it seems that we share, tells me that there is a job out there for me. If this isn't the right one, its because there is something better out there. I know you will be fine in all of this and am sending you positive energy.
I recently interviewed for four jobs, and then got called randonly about a job I hadn't applied for that suits me well. The hardest part of it all was letting someone know I couldn't take a job they were offering me (I am such a people pleaser), and then resigning from another job which I'd had for a day and wasn't working. My boss was dissapointed. Granted, these were not big corporate jobs but still it was hard to say NO!
Now that all the drama is over, I am left with myself, and my old feelings of sadness to deal with. I miss the suspense. And now I worry that I might have chosen wrong!!
I will be checking in to see how your application unfold. Good energy being sent your way.
Best, J
 
*bump*

I have great news guys. I finally landed a job! I'm working in San Diego, so I had to move down there. It is a great job, the company stresses optimism and team work, we do team huddles/cheers in the morning and give each other high fives. It really is an awesome, supportive environment.

The local job I originally posted about I did not get. The recruiter called me and let me know and I just got real low after that. A couple days later though, I was contacted by the same company for an even better job. I had gone through a few interviews with the local job and this other company in San Diego at the same time. The local job was in the process of checking my references when the san diego job made me an offer. I tried to get ahold of the local job to see where I was in the interview process with them, but they did not get back to me so I accepted the job offer in San Diego.

I have been in the process of relocating down there. Although it's not that far (only two hours away) I feel sad because I am leaving a lot of friends, people I really care about, behind. The loneliness gets worse. There is a positive side though, as I said above the company has a very supportive and optomistic culture and so I never feel lonely at work. I just wish those feelings wouldn't come back on the weekends, as they are now.

Well guys, thank you for all your support and positive energy. I truely believe that all of you who were rooting for me were making a difference and keeping me going. I can honestly say that I have been truely happy lately, I have even been thinking to myself how long it's been since I felt this way and how much I missed it. Certainly I am still wrestling with my issues, still getting depressed, but I feel emotionally stronger and am noticing I am falling into fewer traps.
 
bisulatino,

That's great news about the new job in San Diego. Well done! I hope you have celebrated - you sure do deserve it.

Things look a bit more optimistic in your recovery as well, and it's especially encouraging that you yourself can see and appreciate the progress. You refer to being genuinely happy and that's great. Happiness is the name of the game bro. Keep up the good work.

Much love,
Larry
 
Its funny how things sometimes work out so much better than we expect them to!! I love it when this happens . . .
Good luck on the move and stuff. And yes, there will be a lot of change to anticipate in your relationships. I have a friend who did this, and she said it wasn't such a bad thing. She kept in touch with quite a few of us and our relationships got stronger. Some fell by the wayside and and made space for new. Now she is back in town and our friendship has withstood the test. We are closer.
I wish you all the best.

Be well, Jonathon
 
Thanks for the encouragement guys. I am starting to settle in, I can feel the novelty starting to wear off. I still like the work and the city, but have felt down after work a couple of days. I am happy though that I am not feeling down all day. I am trying to think positive, while not beating myself up when I do start to feel down and have some negative feelings. I'm not giving up though. I know that if I sick with it, I'll make it.
 
Hi Bisulatino, San Diego that's great, I was stationed there for about three years. Be sure to go downtown and see the Star of India, and the rest of the ships at the The Maritime Museum . Also farther down the road they have a boardwalk where you can buy all sorts of things, and watch the kites fly. There is a lot to see there in San Diego. You may even be able to get a tour on some of the navy ships.

Take care,
Clifford
 
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