Positives

Positives
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parttimecop

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I know on this site we often talk about the bad that was done to us. But I felt it important to talk about the good that we do or plan to do. Because of my abuse, I feel strongly about justice and protecting people. That is why I am a cop, and seeking to become fulltimecop.

Yes she left me with alot of darkness, but how can you overcome darkness with darkness. You cannot. You can only overcome darkness with light.

I also have become more open about my abuse to let others know that they should not suffer and that I can sympathize quite well with victims. I am not totally as open as I probably should be. But I am growing.

What are you doing as a survivor to turn the darkness into light? What do you think you can do to improve things? What good works are you doing? Let's get a good positive discussion going. I think it would probably help some people.
 
Good thread, PTC. I'm thankful for people like you who are moving ahead and doing what can be done in the name of justice. I know that there are men here who teach without abusing their students. Teaching was area in which I wanted to work but was so frightened I let fear control my decision. Hats off to you guys who push through and follow your heart's desire to help kids learn, whatever you teach or coach, school, sports or general mentoring.
I'm finally getting down to it and I hope to join you in the not too distant future. In the meantime, hold your torchs up high and shine your light for all to see.

Strength and courage,

David
 
Yay!!! Love talking about the positives so on ya mate for starting this post. I don't feel much depressed over my own SA usually, but when I read stories of how other people have suffered badly it cuts me really deep inside and I feel so damn sorry for them ya know.

For me I was never one to play the victim. Yes, I do have to juggle a LOT of crap at this stage in my life but there is WAY too much good stuff going on for me to be depressed and desparate for prolonged amounts of time. There is only 2 weeks of school to go before I have finished FOREVER!!! :) :) :) Absolutely cannot wait. What's even better is I've put in the real hard yards this year, tried my guts out and managed to top my entire year level in Math, English and Economics. I'm so proud of what I've done because I always thought me to be a dumbarse. So it's good stuff that I've proven myself wrong there.
After thinking that maybe I'll NEVER get a girl in my life, and with the onset of disturbing sexual OCD, I thought that I'd soon have to commit to becoming asexual. But luckily the most awesomest, beautifulest girl I know wants to be with me. And when something like that happens there is just so much to get excited about. Being in love, even if it is superficial teenage love, just friggin ROCKS!!!

And I've decided that I'm going to face my demons. One day I might tell my story, but for now I'll just say that IT happened at a beach town on the Victorian coastline. When school is finished, all the high school leavers in Australia head to the beach for 2 weeks to get absolutely hammered and have the greatest parties of their lives on the beaches of these coastal towns. Where me and my mates are heading just so happens to be where I was assualted. Afetr being a little bit hesistant about "going back", I decided,"Nah, screw it, ya can't keep being afraid of stuff that's in the past." So now we have the accommodation and I'm going back to the place where it all began. But man, am I ever PUMPED to head there. It's going to be emotionally healing, as well as the best damn time of my life EVER!!!

I am never gonna let some stupid dickhead ruin my life over something like that. My life is just getting geared up and I'm going to make sure that when I move out (in 2 months) I'm going to start my life right, exactly how I want it to be. I can't wait for it to begin.
 
I am writing about my experiences and have possibly just secured a book deal here in the UK.

This has all come about by doing a blog.

Archnut
 
This could turn out to be quite a thread.

"Good On Ya," OZ, as some are wont to say. Sounds like you've already got a good start on your life. Continued success. Keep us up to date with your adventures.

Hey, Archnut, a book...AAAAALLLLLLLLLRIGHT!!!
Let us know how all of that goes.

David
 
PTC - sometimes we do good things without even realising it.

*first bit sounds negative, but it does get positive.

A couple of weeks ago I had 2 people close to me die (favourite Uncle & neighbour I had known for years), I was offered a job out off the blue that sounded really good - had to turn it down due to location. I was finally offered an Appointment with a Clinical Psychologist (British National Health Service) 9 months after I needed it - I turned it down because the offer came the day between the 2 funerals. Was told I was crap / brilliant on consecutive days at work (modern management???). Then a friends dad was hit accidentaly by a wagon & killed). My head was in a mix & feeling sorry for myself I started wondering again what I was good for.

The day of the second funeral I got a postcard from Turkey from someone that I supported 13 years ago. I was a Special Needs Training Instructor at the time - I helped MD (who had mobility, dexterity & speech issues) following a motorbike accident in which her fiancee was killed. She remembered me after all that time - she had written the address perfectly in block capitals. She had actually written a legible letter in script (last time I saw her, the writing was more like a cardiograph) - apparently somehow I had inspired her. That was a real boost to me.

Just this week, one of the production staff at work brought me some slammer glasses (mexican style - fits the 'theme' of my house) back from holiday, totally unexpected. When I thought about, I've helped this person to gain confidence in giving presentations to 'superiors' at work. I've also helped with computer skills...repayment.

Today, another member of staff brought in a CD that was free in a newspaper - why, because I would probably get more enjoyment from it than they would. This person's daughter recently had a serious accident (recovering well) & I agreed a shift system that meant she would have 24 hour care.

Most of the stuff here that I get positive payback for, I don't really think about when I'm doing it.

Moral - do something good for someone else & the positive payback may just come when you need it most. I don't do religion, but sometimes stuff like this makes me wonder.

Best wishes everyone ...Rik
 
I work at an agency that helps homeless teens, many of whom have been and are being abused.

Through art, I portray not only the hell I've experienced but also the joyful freedom of recovery.

I am, generally, a happier person than I was and am better able to appreciate the caring friends and family I have. I am better able to express love and receive it.
 
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