Played for a sucker
crisispoint
Registrant
There have been a lot of things going on in my life, since I tend to emote, to empathize, to feel for others so easily, that have affected me deeply.
Some have had reasons to affect me. I've been put through a lot, and not just with survivor issues, but that's okay. Everyone goes through rough patches and we learn to cope with it.
But I've also been taken advantage of, and been played, and that's not okay.
Trust is a REAL big issue for me. It takes A LOT to make me want to reach out to someone, to help them, to want to make it all better. A vast majority of the time, I believe it's worth it. It's an honor to help someone, it's a pleasure to give of yourself, and know it's been a worthy thing.
And then there are the times when I've reached out, believing I've done the right thing, and found out I've been played.
It's another betrayal, and it's just plain wrong.
It happens everywhere, and it's happened here in the past. Those who were involved know what I'm talking about. Those who don't only need to be aware that, just like in the "real world," everyone and everything here is NOT what they seem, and they may be taking advantage of you.
They may have the best of intentions, or they may just think it's a "joke." Whatever the cause, it causes damage, like being abused all over again JUST when you're getting to the point of trusting people as a group.
I know most of you here, and I know you wouldn't DREAM of conning your fellow survivors or those who love them, but for those who come here thinking they're doing a "good" thing by using this website as bait for abusers, or sign on and post painful things to see what responses you get for "kicks," you don't deserve the time and space.
Like me, most of you brothers want to reach out and help, do the right thing, everything, but we all need to remember that this is still the wild west of the internet, and things are not always as they seem.
I learned that lesson a long time ago. I think in the future I'm going to maintain a healthy degree of skepticism alongside my compassion. It's the only way I'm going to survive.
All of us should, because we all deserve to be the kind, compassionate beings we are, and NOT get our minds and hearts screwed up.
I care for eveyone here, that's why I'm posting this.
Peace and love to you all. Don't stop caring.
Scot
Some have had reasons to affect me. I've been put through a lot, and not just with survivor issues, but that's okay. Everyone goes through rough patches and we learn to cope with it.
But I've also been taken advantage of, and been played, and that's not okay.
Trust is a REAL big issue for me. It takes A LOT to make me want to reach out to someone, to help them, to want to make it all better. A vast majority of the time, I believe it's worth it. It's an honor to help someone, it's a pleasure to give of yourself, and know it's been a worthy thing.
And then there are the times when I've reached out, believing I've done the right thing, and found out I've been played.
It's another betrayal, and it's just plain wrong.
It happens everywhere, and it's happened here in the past. Those who were involved know what I'm talking about. Those who don't only need to be aware that, just like in the "real world," everyone and everything here is NOT what they seem, and they may be taking advantage of you.
They may have the best of intentions, or they may just think it's a "joke." Whatever the cause, it causes damage, like being abused all over again JUST when you're getting to the point of trusting people as a group.
I know most of you here, and I know you wouldn't DREAM of conning your fellow survivors or those who love them, but for those who come here thinking they're doing a "good" thing by using this website as bait for abusers, or sign on and post painful things to see what responses you get for "kicks," you don't deserve the time and space.
Like me, most of you brothers want to reach out and help, do the right thing, everything, but we all need to remember that this is still the wild west of the internet, and things are not always as they seem.
I learned that lesson a long time ago. I think in the future I'm going to maintain a healthy degree of skepticism alongside my compassion. It's the only way I'm going to survive.
All of us should, because we all deserve to be the kind, compassionate beings we are, and NOT get our minds and hearts screwed up.
I care for eveyone here, that's why I'm posting this.
Peace and love to you all. Don't stop caring.
Scot
