Perv looks ****** off! Poss Trigger

Perv looks ****** off! Poss Trigger
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RICK57

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Since making the statement against 'my perv' on 17/10/04, I have continued to progress mentally to an alarming degree (still work to do though). I think the main factor is that I believe he is no longer in a position to abuse anyone else.

The 'perv' has been released from custody (they can only be held so long without charges being made) & I'm still waiting further feedback (my word against his). *CID & CPS are involved & they are notoriously slow (thanks Arch).

I am in personal contact by e-mail with the policeman that I made the statement to (strange that I chose him to speak to - he is one of the few that actually have training in these issues & has genuine concerns for people like ourselves - how could I tell).

Anyway, back to the perv I never saw him for years until earlier this year. This week I have spotted him twice. The second time, I was driving round a roundabout near the betting shop (bookies) that he frequents. He was outside & just looking across to the roundabout - he looked so pissed off, like the roundabout was going to swallow him (fingers crossed). Previously I had been indifferent to him, but I just thought you perverted *******. It's good to see that he now has the pain that I carried for so long (he has no remorse, or he wouldn't have denied it). His arrest is well known in the town now - he is slumped & I walk taller.

I so hope the CPS take it to court, because he won't be fooling a 12 year old this time!

Strength to you all .....Rik
*I think I finally got the anger!
 
I hope you get him Rick. Good Luck.
 
Rik,

you said one thing that amazed me about the cop, and how could he tell? Nice to meet a cop who can tell. Hey he was there to help you. He never doubted you, he believed in You!

For something you don't tell many people about for so many years, you must have sensed this cop would listen to your excuse about being alone in the mddle of nowhere, and really listen!

You found that courage to tell him, nice one.

The perp, I hope others will come forward, because it wont be only you who he did it to,

best wishes,

ste
 
Tom - thanks for the response.

I fully understand that it may go no further, however there were 'events' during investigation, that added weight to my complaint. Unfortunately it was only circumstancial, but he is being watched, knows he is being watched & just dare not put a foot wrong. I know by his appearance that this is true.

My main concern is not revenge for myself, or treatment for him (I believe they are not treatable), purely that there will be no more victims - if I can get him to court and have my day, then I will grow taller again.

Other victims - there is one person I am 99% convinced of & may attempt to trace him myself (I am realistic as to what the response may be).

There is another person that I remember from school that was out with friends, one of the days I was beings 'taught' to fire an air rifle. About a year later, one day at school he actually called me the pervs brother - I promptly thre a rubber bunsen burner tube (it was handy) at him & managed to wrap it around his neck from a distance of about 50 feet. He could at least confirm that I had been in the pervs presence. Just options, but there are others. I also remember someone else from school mentioning that this perv once encouraged them to have a 'competition'.

It depends how many of these people would be willing to make statements - it took me 35 years to make mine. The more I type here, the more I realise what I can actually do - I don't want to get obsessed, but I would like other victims to come forward - I know I am not the only one.

Ste - it was funny with the Cop (sounds disrespectful for such a good bloke)- we initially had such a normal conversation (considering I was hammered & it was the most atrocious weather). He just looked at me & realised there was something else - he took the trouble to ask. I just instinctively knew he was OK & responded. This is a real policeman - when I wrote my statement with him, it was the best release of pain that I have ever experienced.... that night I slept undisturbed for 11 hours (it was heaven).

Thanks again everyone - I love (my difficult word) you all for the strength that I have gained here..... Rik
 
Rik,

I remember in my late teens, when I lost the job of my life, I was wandering on an old railway track in total despair, crying to myself and this guy appeared who said he was an off duty cop.

Don't know where he came from, because I would normally have known where anyone was coming from, conditioning effect, but he really cared, but I juat said leave me alone.

He tried to console me, I just wish I had the strength to tell him what was going on, but sadly at the time you think nobody can understand the hurt, but hey he was in retrospect somebody I could have shared this shit with!

There are so many good people out there in life, and while they ounumber the bad ones I suppose it can be a good world.

I think even him responding to me in the wilderness gave me the will to carry on, and meeting him was a godsend when I needed support, when I thought nobody cared, he came out of nowhere to comfort me, but hey, because of what I went through, I treated him as someone who could never encompass the hurt.

I so much wish that I could have told him, but it is so hard to tell people about what really went on.

ste
 
Ste - the time has to be right / the people have to be right - for me it was (very much so).

Don't regret what you could have done, just keep an eye out for future opportunities.

You'll know when the time is right.

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Sorry - keep getting multiple postings when the page expires & I refresh - hope it doesn't do it again on this one!!
 
Rick
if he walks hunched up and in shame for the rest of his days then that's a result.

If it does go further, and results in a conviction then that's a victory.

But, as Tom says, we live in difficult times when it comes to proving historic abuse.
I've been looking into pursuing my abusers recently, and the advice I got was basically the same as Tom's.
But I felt better for just asking the questions, and knowing that the police have their names on file.

Dave
 
Thanks again for all of your comments.

I still don't know what the final outcome is going to be, but just 1 reason - that I can post, that makes me feel taller!

My Brother-in-Law plays 5 a side football ( he has only discovered that I was abused after I made my statement on 17/10/04 *UK, 10/17/04 *USA).

Two weeks ago he went to play 5 a side & one of the other players said: 'I see they've finally caught up with *** ****** at last - they've arrested him the other night'

This person (according to my Brother-in-Law) is a 'fish wife' - someone who gossips all day & he also comes from a large family. The town I live in has about 15K residents - how long do you think this news would take to circulate? Not long I think!

Dave - I believe that I have a result (that is a result for all of us - please share it with me because this is the place that I found the strength to seek a result).

I hope that we also have a victory - I somehow think we already have, because he knows he cannot do this anymore.

I must thank you all again for giving me the strength to do this...it feels so good to hand the crap back to him (and I don't think he'll grow roses with it).

Very best wishes ..Rik
 
Rik

Be very careful when contacting other possible survivors if this does get to court the defence would have a hay day suggesting that you and others have coluded together, the defence will suggest also that this was done for compensation purposes.

Oh yes "because he knows he cannot do this anymore" - Dont you believe it.

My lot are in their mid to late sixties and early seventies and I hope to eventually recieve reports back that they are all well and truely stigmatised within their commmunities, terrible thing is stigma, as I think we all know.

Take it easy

Archnut.
 
Had a telephone call tonight & I am hopeful that this may now take the route that I desire!!! Best that I can add now....thanks again.
 
Rik,

first, thank you for your courage. Second, thank you for sharing the ongoing process. And third, thank you for sharing his apparant response to his situation! To hear of a perv looking, acting, or sounding pissed off sounds quite good to me! ;)

leosha
 
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