Pdoc or Therapist

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I just got back from a new pdoc who has put me back on my meds.

I am confused as hell as who to listen to. The pdoc says I should withdraw from the counseling for now because she is not convinced I have DID (five minutes after I meet her.) She also how I coped with the sleeping and nightmares. I told her about my bear. She said to get rid of him, he will make me regress.

On the other hand, my therapist tells me that I have to parent my inner child and do things that help him feel safe, which in my mind, includes the bear.

I don't know who to listen to!

Shit!

Marc
 
Unless you are in danger it seems absurd to me that your PDOC would tell you to get away from your therapist. It also seems absurd that she would comment on your bear if this is something that is working for you.

Can you imagine going to a doctor and them telling you to stop something that was working in the healing process.

A friggin stuffed bear is not going to cause you harm..the bear in and of itself is harmless...christ some f-ing people may have the credentials but they sure seem to lack the skill.

Since you asked...I would be cautious about listening to any PDOC that tried to do a five minute assesment on things that are ailing me.
 
Marc,

The Pdoc sounds like she is way out of her league. There are people, even people with degrees and licenses, that don't "believe" DID exists. Maybe she is one of them.

What she is saying sounds to me like she will completely discount your actual experience of progress toward your own goals because it doesn't fit with her belief about "how you should be."

I'd stick with the therapist and look for a new Pdoc, if possible.

Good luck,

Joe
 
Marc,

The best thing I can suggest is who do you feel has helped you the most, or who do you trust more?

I for one think the pdoc has overstepped her boundaries on a couple of her statements. If this stuff helps you cope, what's the difference?

If you think the bear is hurting you, sure, get rid of it. But I believe that it's helping you, at least I get that impression.

Sorry I can't be more decisive on this issue, but I also lean toward soing what you feel is right. And your therapist is winning on that score.

You need me, I'm here.

Peace and love,

Scot
 
Originally posted by SoCal_Marc:
I just got back from a new pdoc who has put me back on my meds. I am confused as hell as who to listen to.
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Lets look at this logically, who should you listen to, a therapist who is a survivor of CSA and whos son is a survivor of CSA and can command $100 a session. Or a Pdoc who is not a survivor and who is in a insurance network making a discounted fee who can tell you these things after 5 minutes of meeting you?

The answer is of course the survivor. Talk to Sue about the bear, see what she has to say. I don't think it should be a problem but if you really want to know ask.

Jason
 
I can't remember a better night's sleep. Not a single nightmare. And like I've done all my life, I woke up twice. Both times, I found myself in the same sleeping position, with Ricky in my arms. I usually toss and turn. And I just went back to sleep. No panic, no heavy thinking.

Woke up refreshed and ready to go to work. Good thing!
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Marc, I must have missed your post about a good night's sleep, but just happend to catch it on the way out of this one. It looks to me that you may have answered your own question.

Since the retreat in Canada, I have finally been in touch with the little me. One exorcise was writing a letter to ourselves either from the big us to the little us or the little us to the big us. The trick was that if we were writing from the little us, we were to use our non dominate hand, and boy that was the key I needed to get in touch with my little me.

I didnt regress or separate from myself and grow apart, I found myself and am coming together to become the person I was meant to be. I visualized a bridge over the bad parts and found the little me from before the abuse waiting for me to come back and pick him up. The point is, I dont think you are moving apart, but getting in touch with the younger you so you can grow together.

Plus in Canada, there were a whole bunch of guys running around with stuffed animals, (eh Mike?) and it worked for us!

Talk to your therapist and tell them the entire situation. But follow your heart.
 
I think I would find another Pdoc and get a second opinion. There are of course many schools of thought on methods of recovery and healing, but for a professional to get that dogmatic in that short of time, would throw up as many bells in my mind as it has in yours.

It would probably be a good thing to discuss this with your therapist in the next session you have with them. I am assuming of course that you have been with your therapist long enough to know if you can or can not trust them.

This Pdoc seems a little "off" from what you have said.

Don
 
I have a small stuffed dog called "Renfrew" after a famous English archaeologist.

Every small boy should have a dog..... Well this one does :)

Regards
Archnut
"And all that was left was hope"
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