parents are you conscious

[markgreyblue]

Rick,

It was so wild to bump into you.

Thanks for the latte and the listening ear.

It was good to tell you all that - Isolation really plays on me -

Anyway-

I was thinking about your son too - your concern -

My thoughts - though unsolicited are: at a certain point - You can lead a horse to water -
but you cannot make them drink -

He will be who he chooses and who he naturally is -

He may make choices you will be proud of and maybe some you will not -

He sounds essentially a good guy - and he is very young still figuring out his life -

it's a journey for each of us -

Your concern is nice to see though -

Positive reinforcement is always a good idea-

Peace - and Best -

Mark

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This note to Rick made me think - He is a good man:


parents are you aware of what you are giving your child - or is it more about your 'need' -?

your words matter -

you are prepping them for life:

- to be ok with themselves -

- to have the right to self protect

- to know how to survive -

- and ultimately give back safely
to their legacy -
their partner -
or children
or community -

 

[markgreyblue]

whoever they are naturally -

everything included -


you are the first ones to

say you are a reject or valuable -

 

[SAR]

Hey mgb, you are so right. It burns me up to see how many parents tell their children "Oh, you like this," or "You don't want that."

We have to be conscious that kids are not kids forever, that they become adults and that they take the tools and skills we gave them into adulthood-- everything from answering the phone to balancing a checkbook to grieving for a loved one. They need to learn it. They need to see it, they need a chance to DO it, as kids, safely, and mess it up once or twice without having to worry about us rejecting them.

In some ways the best and worst gift of my own childhood was too much independence. But I think I'd have rather had too much than not enough.

Take care--
SAR