Overhwelmed Easily
Overhwelmed Easily
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Hey, Jason, I'm hoping that you're in therapy and that you have a good therapist.
I so know what you're talking about. I've left more than a couple of jobs because I couldn't handle the stress. Stress that I either put on myself or just the stressful things that came up because of the nature of the job itself.
I think that survivors can have a short fuse and are sometimes not too tolerant of others imposing on us.
I don't know, is it possible to know this about ourselves, and expect that we're going to be stressed, and work to eliminate as much stress as possible. It does help to talk about it and a therapist should be able to help some.
Good luck with that. Let us know what works for you...share it here, others may have positive ways in dealing with stress.
Good thread,
David
I so know what you're talking about. I've left more than a couple of jobs because I couldn't handle the stress. Stress that I either put on myself or just the stressful things that came up because of the nature of the job itself.
I think that survivors can have a short fuse and are sometimes not too tolerant of others imposing on us.
I don't know, is it possible to know this about ourselves, and expect that we're going to be stressed, and work to eliminate as much stress as possible. It does help to talk about it and a therapist should be able to help some.
Good luck with that. Let us know what works for you...share it here, others may have positive ways in dealing with stress.
Good thread,
David
Sorry, just chuckling on this one!Originally posted by jtt5254:
Good therapist, Nah I have this hack of a social worker who doesn't know shit
(Hi Ken
Seriously, though, do you think maybe the time of year is affecting you? I know that it seem a lot of people are very stressed with holidays and such. Even if it is not something you are conscious of, maybe it is something you are affected by and not aware of it. I hope it gets better for you. Just be easy with yourself, and try to be gentle with yourself.
leosha
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I have to agree with leosha, this time of the year can be miserable if we want it to be. We really need to be more caring at this time of ourselves, and also those who we live around.
The problem with stress at work, is that, we do not know how much is work stress, and how much is our own stress.
I find that I can hold my own with bosses now, because I do my job as best it can be done, and tell them so.
The pity is, I can take longer to do the job, because somehow it has to be just so, while others just do it and make mistakes, which can go un-noticed, until they cause big problems.
Sometimes, getting it right is the best way, it took me a long time to learn that one, in fact, a lifetime
This link may be of help on stress;-
https://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Mind+guide+to/The+Mind+guide+to+relaxation.htm
take care,
ste
The problem with stress at work, is that, we do not know how much is work stress, and how much is our own stress.
I find that I can hold my own with bosses now, because I do my job as best it can be done, and tell them so.
The pity is, I can take longer to do the job, because somehow it has to be just so, while others just do it and make mistakes, which can go un-noticed, until they cause big problems.
Sometimes, getting it right is the best way, it took me a long time to learn that one, in fact, a lifetime
This link may be of help on stress;-
https://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Mind+guide+to/The+Mind+guide+to+relaxation.htm
take care,
ste
unknownsoldier
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Also, to me it seems like when all this stuff starts coming up everything is raw and oversensitive. Things that never bothered me before piss me off, I'm reaaly sensitve to being around people, especially if they are walking aroundbehind me while I'm working, its hard to concentrate, so the tasks are more frustrating, and jut overall my emotions are more intense. If you've been numb for a lot of years, its intense to be reacting to everyday stimulus in a different way, and learning to regulate and tolerate all the feelings.
Its a huge relief to be finally dealing with it, but it makes life 'harder' for a while until things settle down again. It seems to come in waves.
Its a huge relief to be finally dealing with it, but it makes life 'harder' for a while until things settle down again. It seems to come in waves.
I also have found that because everything is out in the open with myself and my wife and kids, I can more easily deal with the manipulators at work. I can stand up more to others and not feel like I have to agree. I realize that I have a long way to go yet, but it is easier to say no or voice my opinion.
My immediate manager is aware that I am in therapy for SA, simply because I felt that it was only fair for him to understand and I do have to learn to trust. I have an extremely high stress job, but it is so much easier to deal with now.
I have to credit my wife as much as my therapist for the strength to help through all this. 40 years of baggage is a lot to carry around, but my shoulders seem a lot stronger now.
My immediate manager is aware that I am in therapy for SA, simply because I felt that it was only fair for him to understand and I do have to learn to trust. I have an extremely high stress job, but it is so much easier to deal with now.
I have to credit my wife as much as my therapist for the strength to help through all this. 40 years of baggage is a lot to carry around, but my shoulders seem a lot stronger now.