ON A SCALE OF 1 TO 10..WHO'S MORE F...ED UP

ON A SCALE OF 1 TO 10..WHO'S MORE F...ED UP
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Steven Heath

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I recently have returned to MS and sent some PM's to old friends of mine here. I got one PM which made me think. This person was wondering why I was here. I think he felt that because I had accomplished some things in life that I might be really healed and did not have, possibly, reason to be here. At least that is what I think he felt. Anyway that is not the point of this message. It never occurs to me when I am here whether I am more "healed or less "healed" than anyone else. When I was in rehab for drugs in the late 80's I had to go to NA meetings as part of the process. I remember thinking....."why am I here....these people are a lot more fucked up than I am".
That is when I started to learn 2 of the most important life lessons ever for me. One was "humility" and the other was "we are all on level ground". So what I am trying to say I guess.....is that I never judge anyone here as to their level of "healing" and therefore if someone seems more healed, they may have nothing to more to teach me as someone who "seems" less healed. I have much to learn from all of you guys. And that "being further along" is only a perception.
Steve
 
I reckon today to be 99 on the scale, a little top heavy.

My brother who abused me since childhood cannot resist it today.
I guess it is all he really learned to do.

He put my dad in his grave early, now he tries it on me :mad:

ste
 
Steven,

You are always welcome here. Try not to take the Pm's too personal. As you know, survivors have good days and bad days, the response you got could be the result of a bad day. Give your friend a little time and I'm sure he will come around.

Recovery is Possible!

Brian
 
Brian,
Thanks for your response. I felt no ill feelings toward the PM or my friend here at all. It just made me think.
Thanks Steve
 
Steve, sorry about hijacking your thread.
Forget about who is worse off, if you are here, you do it for a purpose.

I was just fuming at my brother, and never even read your post, my fault, not yours.
You have the same right as everyone else to be here,

ste

PS friend no good
 
Steve,

It's a 2 way process mate. I've gained loads from you being on the board and feel it's a better place with you here.

Mark
 
Originally posted by Steven Heath:
I have much to learn from all of you guys. And that "being further along" is only a perception.
Steve
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Recovery is not a goal, it is a process. There is no "further along" or "furthest behind;" there is just the path. Those of us who have progressed far in their recovery are still on the path, but it does not mean we are better off in any real way. All it means is that we have a greater responsibility to help others along the path.

I think you are back here because you do have something to learn from the others. The trick is to discover what that is. What I do when I find myself back here is try to read everyone's signature lines. They tell you a lot.

Take care,

Nobby
 
Steve,

I like your approach to this subject. Every one of us is here to learn primarily how to further our own recovery. The really cool thing about it is that in the process we help other's in their recovery.

A therapist friend of mine says

"We were wounded in relationship. The only way to healing is also in relationship."

So we come here asking questions of other's who have been where we are. We establish relationships here, and those relationships help further our mutual recovery.

Lots of love,

John
 
We are as far in our recovery as we perceive ourselves to be. A common fault in all of us is that we strive to be "healed". We tend to look at these issues as black and white. We tend to want find that point in our life when we are healed as opposed to still being hurt from the abuse. There is no black and white in this issue. Our recovery is gradual and we can't go from being hurt to being healed in one single process. I wish I could wake up tomorrow and say "hey! I'm healed!" It's about being strong and dealing with what we must. What happened to us is a part of who we are and will be until we die. We are stronger than most. We were conditioned to deal with some of those most difficult issues anyone can deal with. Whatever comes at us tomorrow, BRING IT! The world is yours.

Much love,
Jason
 
Guys,
So many of your responses just make me think more and wonder more. That is all I can ever ask for. The rest comes in the order it's supposed to.
Thank you so much.
Steve
 
Thanks for being there for me yesterday, you mean a great deal to me as a friend.

Thanks Love your Friend aways

Michael Joseph
 
My friends, you are all correct. But the most important theme I see here is "...make me think more." We are not hiding, we are searching. When we stop thinking, trouble ain't far behind. This is why this site is so damn important.
We are not the legion of the dead, we are alive and fighting. Pat yourself on the back, not kick yourself in the ass.

froggy12, wondering what in hell is next? I'll fund out for sure.
 
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