Not sure where to start.......

Not sure where to start.......
James_dup1

James_dup1

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Hey guys,
Not real sure where to start with all of this, but just need to get it off my mind. Some already know about whats going on with me now. But lets see....my wife and I have been fighting very bad for some time now. One night she said some things to me that cut right to the soul (using my abuse as a way to hurt me and it worked) now she says I've done the same thing..ofcourse I dont see it that way, but she does so thats what really matters. Then last saturday she told me to get out and I said "NO", not sure why but I did. So on sunday I told her I think a divorce is what would be best. Well Sunday night she took some pills and wrote a letter to the kids saying good bye. So I called 911, they take her to the er, while at the er they talk to her and then give her a shot and send her home. Once home she starts taking more pills so we called again. This time they just called the er doctor and asked him what he wanted done. He said to hit the pills and let her sleep it off. Well monday your t came over to talk to both of us and while our t was here she put a knife to my throat. So wife is in jail and Im a single parent.
Right now not real sure how I'm feeling. To much running through my head..
Thanks for letting me tell you about this...
Love ya
James
 
James:

I don't know what to say other than I want to take it all away. Call or email if you want to talk...
 
Thank you my friend. Right now I'm just taking things one day at a time and trying to keep a "normal" life for the kids. About all I can do I think anyway.
James
 
I KNOW YOUR PAIN MUST BE VERY GREAT RIGHT NOW. I'VE BEEN IN SIMILAR PLACES WHERE EVERYTHING JUST APPEARS TO BE "DYSFUNCTION STEW" BUT I CAN TELL FROM YOUR REMARK ABOUT YOUR KIDS THAT YOU A REALLY A CARING PERSON. SOMETIMES I JUST HAVE TO GET IN THE "DONT CREATE A CRISIS AND DONT STOP ONE " MODE JUST TO TAKE CARE OF ME AND MY FAMILY. I KNOW YOUR HURTING AND MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. E-MAIL ME IF YOU JUST WANT TO "DUMP". PEACE BE WITH YOU-
 
Being there for the kids is obviously of the utmost importance. I'm happy to hear that you're doing that. I'll reinforce that notion by reminding you that no one was there to take care of us when we needed it most. Since you've managed to keep some sense of normalcy intact for five or six days now, it would follow that you can keep it up. Please do that. As a parent I realize, as you do, that we have to put our own shit aside in the interest of the kids. Of course they know that something is amiss, they're so much smarter than we give them credit for. And I'm sure they appreciate and feed off of your strength. Keep talking to whomever makes the most sense to you and to the people who can help you be strong. I think the signature at the end of my posts is very fitting for your situation. I wish you the best. Give the kids a hug from me, let them know you'll make everything all right.
 
I am very sorry to hear of your recent troubles.
Hopefully your family will heal and there will be happier times ahead. Peace to you. Andrew
 
James,
I'm sorry things have been so chaotic for you, the whole situation sounds really tough. I guess you are earning your stripes as a parent, that's really great you are able to be there for the kids in a situation that is so hard for all of you. It shows your strength of character. You can get through this. Take care.

Ken
 
(((((((((James))))))))))) I am very sorry of all you have been through my friend. I hope that it goes better soon. I have faith in you, in your abilities, but I know it will remain difficult. I hope that you are able to take good care of yourself as well as the children. You are well worth that goodness. Please take care. I will be thinking good thoughts for you.

leosha
 
Well got a letter from her yesterday, two for me and one for the kids. The ones to me were just about what I expected .. lots of sorry and I love you's and I dont remember etc.....however the one to the kids has upset me a little. Not going to get into a he said she said here just say that my impression of some of the things she said were very passave aggresave. So I'm going to walk to the jail today and see her and ask her when she writes the kids to please be more mindful of her wording. When my middle child started reading it he stoped about half way through it because it upset him with some of the things she said. :( So I'm going to take the letter with me and show her the things she wrote that I feel she shouldnt say to the kids expecily right now. I just hope I can do this in such a way as not to sound like I am trying to say she is wrong and I am right. We both seem to do that when we try to talk about our feelings. So wish me luck I'll let ya'll know who it goes. Thanks for all the support ya'll are giveing me. I really need it right now, hope one day I can repay each and everyone of you.
James
 
I am very sorry for everything you have been put through as of late, I hope you take good care of yourself and your kids as I know you will. BUt te thing with abuse is it is always a festering wound that can be opened by the ones we love, so we always must be mindful of that, and we must let them know that they are the ones that can hurt us easiest because of what they know. I wish you luck with your trip to the jail, I hope it goes well for you, and I hope things get better for you soon, you deserve it. I wish you all the best with this, and will keep hope for you.

Scott
 
James. You are something special in my eyes. With all the trouble you are having and have had of late your first concern is your children. GOD I WISH ALL PARENTS WERE LIKE YOU. You set a standard for us that is truly amazing.

I know that you will be ok with yourself and that your children could not have a better father.
 
Well didnt make it up there. Just didnt have the engery. Well maybe next weekend. Saturday and Sundays are the only days I can see her. So have all week to think about what Im going to say to her that may be a good thing.

Thank you everyone for your kind words. They really have helped.

James
 
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