Not adding up (triggers? Eh, just to be safe)

[Leosha]

Nyjah,

We all have been hurt here. Very few have gone on to hurt others. Because we KNOW what it feels like.

It is interesting to me, what you said of how 'boys can take pain easier'. It is something I was thinking of. Last week, myself and two friends (two male friends) all went on a trip together for a brief vacation. And I could imagine people looking at us strange. Because women are 'allowed' to have friends, close friends, without being looked at funny. It is 'hanging out with the girls'. But for men to have close friends, very close friends, it seems it is a sign of weakness. Same of us 'taking pain better'. There is a societal expectation of us which sucks.

Your interpretation of it is correct. That we 'take pain' better because we are expected to. Not because it is some genetic strength.

Leosha

 

[sabooka]

Nyjah,

I do not think there is an answer to your questions. We could spend all of our lives trying to figure out why people hurt other people ( and I think most of the people here do spend most of their lives asking this) but I do not think there is one answer. Some people hurt other people because it deadens there own hurt. Others do it to feel power of some one and others do it for a thousand different reasons.

Leosha said

We all have been hurt here. Very few have gone on to hurt others. Because we KNOW what it feels like.

I think this is right. I think the reason people here do not re abuse is because they are dealing
with their emotions in an acceptable way. We examine what our selves and try to understand and correct our behaviour.

I also agree with Leosha about the boy girl thing. We are told by all the people around us how to act according to our sex. The example you give about the girl and her mother is exactly that. It is also important to remember that that girl also was told at that moment that it was ok for her to feel pain BUT not ok for her to be strong. We are told from an early age who we should behave according to our sex.

I agree with you Nyjah that it does not make sense.

Jonathan

 

I don't think they ever got help you konw? They just had all of this stuff on their minds and it messed up the lines between right and wrong like morally and ethically.

Some perps come from very loving homes. MINE DID!

Some perps have never been sexually or physically abused themselves. MINE WASN'T!

Some perps are bright, goodlooking, straight males who have all the advantages in the world. MINE SURE DID!

Some perps just do what they do because they like to hurt people. MINE DID!

Some perps don't even care who they hurt. MINE DIDN'T!

Some perps are looked up to, and loved, and trusted by their victims. MINE SURE WAS!

Some perps just do what they do, even to little babies, because they enjoy hearing kids cry. MINE SURE DID!

Some perps are older brothers who should be watching out for the little kids in the family instead of trying to hurt them, abuse them, and kill them. BUT THAT WAS MY PERP.

Perps are perps--what else can I say?

Jasper