... normal memory???
... k was looking through some old photos of when he was a little kid and later told me he can't remember big chunks of his childhood ... nothing ... just bits and pieces here and there ... and he remembers nothing at all before age 8, when he was abused ...
... i've had my own issues with memory ... i "forgot" my abuse - which happened from age 5 to age 9 - until my abuser mentioned it to me whan i was 14 ... i remembered it all as soon as he said something and then i couldn't understand how i'd ever forgotten it ... it was like i'd never forgotten it ... and i hated him for several years and he got sick with leukemia and i kind of "forgot" again and to me he became the "loving step grandfather" everyone said he was ... then i finally told my mother about the abuse when i was in my early 20s ... i know that makes no sense ... but it's what happened ...
... so k asked me if i remembered all my childhood and i had to say i remember about like he does ... bits and pieces but not a continuous kind of thing ... and it does feel like there are big chunks missing ...
... but we both agreed we have no way of knowing if it's from being abused, because we both were, or if that's how everyone remembers ... my sister seems to remember all sorts of things and when she talks about it, i just come up blank ...
... so my question is do other people remember a lot about their own childhoods, from like ages 5 to 10 or so .. where we both are kind of blank to different degrees? ... how clear and continuous would a "normal" or "average" memory be?
... just wondering ...
selene
... i've had my own issues with memory ... i "forgot" my abuse - which happened from age 5 to age 9 - until my abuser mentioned it to me whan i was 14 ... i remembered it all as soon as he said something and then i couldn't understand how i'd ever forgotten it ... it was like i'd never forgotten it ... and i hated him for several years and he got sick with leukemia and i kind of "forgot" again and to me he became the "loving step grandfather" everyone said he was ... then i finally told my mother about the abuse when i was in my early 20s ... i know that makes no sense ... but it's what happened ...
... so k asked me if i remembered all my childhood and i had to say i remember about like he does ... bits and pieces but not a continuous kind of thing ... and it does feel like there are big chunks missing ...
... but we both agreed we have no way of knowing if it's from being abused, because we both were, or if that's how everyone remembers ... my sister seems to remember all sorts of things and when she talks about it, i just come up blank ...
... so my question is do other people remember a lot about their own childhoods, from like ages 5 to 10 or so .. where we both are kind of blank to different degrees? ... how clear and continuous would a "normal" or "average" memory be?
... just wondering ...
selene
